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Please tell me I'm not a bad mother!?

Moms have you ever been so nauseated that you couldn't cook a good meal for your kid(s)? I have been suffering with recurrent nausea due to a medication I take. Today I was doing fine, but around 5pm I started to feel really bad. I went to the bathroom and sat on the floor for about 10 mins, then went into the living room, checked my 3 yr old son, put on a video, and went back to the bathroom again for another 10 mins. I did this for like an hr. I knew he was hungry, so when I could control my gag reflex well enough, I went to the kitchen. I gave my son 7-8 saltine crackers, a couple of Kraft singles and an apple. He seems fine with it, but I feel so guilty! My husband is working tonight, and can't come home, and my MIL will never drive to our house at night. I'm on my own! I've been on Answers b/c it keeps me distracted from the nausea.

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I don't think your a bad mom at all sometimes this happens when your sick you cant always be a perfect mom and if he's not complaining about dinner i wouldn't either. Just try to keep yourself from getting sick so you can make a better dinner for him tomorrow:) i hope you get to feeling better soon
No, you are definitely not a bad mother. Are you kidding??!! You are sick!!!! You need to rest, and you are trying to do the best you can!!!! Just relax, and don't worry so much. Put your 3 yr old son to bed early, if at all possible, and try to get some rest. I hope you get feeling better!!
I would call your doctor that prescribe that medicine. That ok. I do once in awhile espically when I don't feel good. But next time you go to the grocery store. Get those kids frozen meal that you could put in the micorwave that you can fix him. Apple and the cheese are good for him and you could put peanut butter on those crackers..
Of course you're not a bad mom. Crackers, cheese and an apple is a good meal. Some moms would've gone straight for a microwave-crap meal. So really, kuddos to you!
i have been there and what i did was cook the meal and there were times when i did throw up but i did so in the sink. I know its hard but what you fed your son was ok and i'm sure if he gets hungry again later you'll give him a snack, sometimes our bodies just have funny ways of telling us we need rest.
you are not a bad mother. there, you have been told.
No you are not a bad mother. He had fruit and protein. There is nothing wrong with this. You are probably doing better then alot of mothers who aren't sick.
that happened all the time with me. i have 2 kids and am pregnant with #3 and for the first 16 weeks i really couldnt cook anything or even stand up long enough to make them something. that doesnt make you a bad mother.
No, no, no. You're not a bad mother at all. Sometimes we just can't control what happens to us suddenly. You did give your child something to eat, if you were a bad mother you would've just sat in the bathroom over the toilet and ignored him. I hope you're feeling better, drink some tea with honey it should help with the nausea.
lol...your not a bad mom...you could have given him cookies and candy. It's hard to take care of others when your not well, at least what you gave him is good for him. So I say good job Mommy. hope you feel better soon.
Its ok. Wheat, dairy, fruit. There are times you just do the best you can. I had morning sickness really bad for 2 weeks. We did takeout, I had fast stuff I could prepare, and my husband cooked some. It was 2 weeks before my family ate a meal that took more than 15 minutes to make.
You can;t help when you get sick. My recomendation? Keep $20 put back for times liek this to call for a pizza! Thats what I do!
Oh, gawd, no your not a bad mother. If your sick, your sick. If he was hungry, he would have let you know. Do not feel guilty, your only human. Stop feeling so guilty, you have nothing to worry about. :)
He had dairy, fruit and grain. It's better than getting fast food. Do you have some ginger ale for yourself? Maybe that, some 7-up and some of those crackers would help you. Also, how about when your husband goes to the store you have him get some ready made foods that are healthy that you can keep in a cupboard that your son can reach so when he is hungry when you are sick he can help himself?
hey, you do what you can when you can! feel better!
You provided him with nutrition; he's fine with it. Since the nausea is the result of medication, you can plan for it--fix something earlier, take meds later, or order out. Hope you get better soon. You're not a bad mom in this situation.
No hun, you're not bad - you're physically ill. How about finding a time when you don't feel nauseated to cook some meals and freeze them? That way, you can just put them in the microwave and make give him a nice meal, even if you don't feel well. If that's not possible, buy some organic frozen meals (such as Amy's) to feed him when you're not feeling well. Being a mom is a very tough, FULL TIME job! It's hard enough doing it when you feel well, but it's nearly impossible when you're sick. In order to be able to do it, you need to take care of yourself. Please speak to your doctor about the nausea. See if there's something that can be done. In the meantime, try things like eating a mint or sucking on a lemon to help your nausea. I also saw some lollipops for morning sickness called Preggy Pops in Babies R Us that might help you. Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon!
Not at all!! You gotta take care of you to make sure that you can take care of your children. If he's fine with crackers, an apple, and cheese, then hello, your job is done!!
girl lemme tell you i am a mother of a four year old with adhd and you havet to do what works.... if your sick tired or just need a break from your usual routine.......... feeding the child what he likes every now and then is no big deal not feeding him would be.....my son is a picky eater so i could go into alot more interesting dinners then that but trust me you are a good mother
Don't be silly - your son can survive without a proper cooked meal for one night until your husband gets home and I can tell you that if I were your MIL I would be round there like a shot even if it meant getting a taxi. Never mind - you just relax and have your son keep quiet for you Write a note for your husband so that he knows what you need when he comes in without you having to explain and remember - you are *not* a "bad Mother" - you are simply a Mother who is unwell temporarily. Look after yourself you hear me? Best wishes, Joan.
Angela..i think you better go back to your doc and get them meds changed...it's obvious that they are making you ill, sounds like your having some kind of chemical reaction to them, your body is rejecting them...you are not a bad mum at all, i just think that you need to get a weaker dose of meds because the ones you are taking are not doing you any good at all...please go back and explain to your doc that they are grounding you...this is preventing you from taking care of things and this is not right...IT'S NOT YOU...it's the meds....you must have felt awful....it's not your fault OK...stop worrying about being a bad mother, you still had the strength to go and feed the kids, it may not have been a cooked meal, but you still fed them, and what you fed them was healthy anyway...for your own sake..get to the doc and get him to take you off the ones your on and give you an alternative, these are reacting badly to your system...what happens if you collapse and the kids can't help you?...please...just get them changed and tell the doc exactly what happened to you...
You are NOT a bad mother. You're a mother who is doing the best she can under less than ideal conditions. Your son got fed. It was a nice healthy variety of food. He'll never remember this meal any way. All he cares about is that he got fed and got to watch a video. You need to stop feeling guilty and work on getting well. Only a great mother would worry about what her son was eating when she is ready to throw up on her own feet. Hang in there. You'll survive this and so will your son!!
your not a bad mum. You are doing the best you can. You have fed him but if he is still hungry can he get himself some yogurt or make himself a sandwich (not saying it will be done well but it will be edible). Hope you feel better soon
oh you are not a bad mom! That is life. My daughter was with me and I was single and pregnant. She was 7 years old. I got her up for school and I went back to bed (I could hardly crawl out to get her up). She got herself ready for school and I put a hat on and drove her there. Than came back home and went back to bed. I often didnt' even cook supper, just had snacky things or pitas or scrambled eggs or somthing. I could hardly play games with her. I was dizzy and tired and so hormonal and grumpy. This was for 41 weeks! She was so understanding and things are back to normal now. You are doing this ONE night. You are not a bad mom. I happen to be an excellent mother that had a rough patch... same with you. That is life. It is good for kids to see how you handle taking care of yourself when you are so out of it and sick that you cannot take care of things around you, that teaches them to do the same... to do waht they have to in order to feel better
I FEEL BAD FOR YOU YOU DID GIVE HIM SOMETHING SO YOU DID TRY AND YOU DONT DO THIS ALL THE TIME SO YOUR TRYING TO COPE WITH THE NAUSEA GOOD LUCK HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER
If he's anything like my daughter, he probably liked that better than a cooked meal. Everytime I cook a meal my 3-year-old daughter just looks at it and says I don't like that, but my 1-year-old daughter is chowing down on it so I know it's not bad. Hope you get to feeling better soon. You're doing a great job!
You're not a bad mom at all for being ill. I'm so sorry that you've had that sort of horrible nausea. When we're down with something, it's really difficult to take care of our families. Doesn't make us bad parents, we're only humans. While pg with my daughter, I had severe hyperemesis gravadarum, I threw up 24/7 for the first 4 1/2 months of the pregnancy. My son was 2 1/2... it was definitely tough. Hang in there, hope you're feeling better soon. Is this is a medication that you have to take indefinitely?
I hope you get better soon, I am also glad you offered the additional information about being married, I was already to scold you for what I thought was that REDICULOUS IMMACULATE CONCEPTION IDEAL that the modern feminist seems to perpetuate, by having children and WALLAH, no DAD to be seen for miles and miles, I am tired of seeing this twisted phenominon, as you can see this is a sensitive subject for me :) back to you and your situation, it is pretty simple to solve, have hubby prefab meals, put them in plastic bags , all you have to do is nuke them and pass them on to the child, until such time as you feel better, Good luck on that and I bet if you were nicer to your Mother In Law, hell she would even come over and run your bath water for you,, do not rebutt me, think about what I have said, Good luck and get well soon....