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I am seriously really depressed. no money, no friends, no job, no boyfriend. no reason to live. no answers.?

i am 31 yrs old . i can't get a job for the life of me. I havebeen doing web design for 8 yrs and i can't find work in my field. I can't get a job doing anythign else due to my resume of computer work. I've tried for 2 yrs to 'fix' this situation and nothign is working. i have no money to be joining yoga and spending money on all these fancy things rich people do to fix theirs lives when theres probably nothing wrong with them. I sit in my apt. with my laptop tealing the internet from neighbors trying to find work. I can't find a single job doing anything. oh! i should mention. I'd rather die then work at mc donalds.. so that's out of the question. I have no friends really, just a bunch of people that tell me im great, creative and they are my friends but i actually don't believe them. I haven't had a love interest in about 10 yrs. I'm pretty much a waste of space in society and im kind of tired of optimistic people telling me it's easy to change. trust me i've been trying for 2 yrs.

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2. SO the breakthrough is just around the corner then isn't it :) If you have been doing everything you should be doing for TWO years, Success is just within your grasp...What is the point of giving up NOW???? There are people that can help tailor your resume more towards a SKILL set based resume that will focus on your overall skills rather than strictly the computer skills. Also, Try looking at Monster for "communications" type jobs..they typically need people who are stong at web design...Or graphics design. Don't just look for web design in your searches. By the way, you DON'T FIND WORK BY SITTING AROUND THE HOUSE. You have to mix it up a bit. Just for the hell of it...Just go to an office building and drop off copies of your resume at every office. Approach this with Expectations that something Positive is going to come about because ot YOUR actions. EASY??? Life is TOUGH. Get out there and do something about your situation!~!!
3. don't give up. you've been doing web design for 8 years so you know you're good at something. 31 is still young. just keep trying. it's not easy to change, but it's worth giving it a try.
4. I was fired frm my career that I have had for 21 yrs. I can find work in my field but really dont want to because I am tired of my career choice. My solution is that if you cant find work in your field, go t a college and do an assement to see what other fields you might be good at. Also, if their is some interest, take some classes and learn a new career. Thats what I have chosen to do.
5. do you have any musical talents?why not join american idol or any other talents search,..or better yet why not post a really depressing afternoon-drama-show-like blog over the internet,. make it into an internet reality show that will make you into an internet sensation in no time!,.
6. you might not like this answer but ask Jesus to run your life, tell him that you have tried and recently it hasn't been going well. If you know anything about the USA, President Lincoln (who suffered from depression) said he got down on his hands and knees and prayed to God because he had no where else to turn. I believe if you truly ask with an honest heart that God/Jesus will help you. It may be the one thing that you need to do. I know about rather dying than work at McDonald's, have been seeking work for 3 years and believe me platitudes are not something I appreciate either.
7. everyone deserve to live.i used to be in that same boat.i kid u not.i prayed.people may laugh and think ur stupid and u may not see the point.but god loves u. he brought u here for a reason.im back in that boat again cause i up and quit my job like a fool.and im strugglin now.with the man in my life,i have 3 kids that i have to kept fed,clean and safe.and ive been looking and looking for a job these last 3 months.and i said thats wat i mite have to do work at mcdonalds for a minute.i have strong potentials to one day be a model.its like every day a door get slam but im not gonna give up.because i belive in me.never never give up.god feels ur pain just go to him.he,s wating he never let us down go to him.and tellm how u feel straight from the heart i promise he wont turn his back on u.ur one of his child and he loves u.so love ur self and believe in urself.
8. You've still got you're whole life ahead of you. Just because things are getting worse now, that doesn't mean you should just kill your self. Keep moving forward.
9. Why are you not getting work? Have you tried going out on your own? Are your skills up to date? Have you thought about programming instead of web design? Have you considered interviewing at other places in other towns? Perhaps the local economy isn't the best. You aren't a waste of space. Perhaps you could volunteer to help a charity with web design? Or in some other way? How are you paying rent etc. without a job? I have no solutions for you, just more questions. Good luck, Dana
10. I'm sure there are a lot of jobs in between web design and McDonalds. Shoot for one of them because any job is a purpose in life and that will start to turn things around. It will build up your confidence and self esteem again and you can begin to work on the other things. 8 years of computer work is worth something software testing, documentation writing, help desk, etc. I recommend you check into the library for some self help books on confidence, self esteem and resume writing. I also recommend "Who Moved my Cheese"...no need to check it out, it can be read in an hour and will have a profound impact (I read it this afternoon).
11. i know how you feel...for the past month i have been sooo depressed. i dropped out of law school because i hated it. then i realized what a stupid mistake was and flipped out. felt like a total loser. i was literally having panic attacks that i was going to be homeless and starving. didn't eat for two days. it was awful. collosal two day panic attack. then i snapped out of it. applied to get my masters in special ed, got in! applied for a job working with kids with various problems, got the job!! even grew closer to my bf. i still have my panic days, but we all do. even perfect people have problems, or there wouldn't be yoga classes, right? life just takes a little bit of hard work and a whole lot of luck. maybe you'll never be rich....so what. if you begrudge others their success, you'll only become bitter and they won't become any less successful. apply for crappy jobs....any port in a storm, my friend. go online and join a dating sight or something. there are no magic answers. the world can be a cruel place, especially to those who don't help themselves. don't give up. i've been where you have been. you'll be fine. :)
12. No. 1 you do not have to work where you do not want to work. Sometimes it helps to get some assistance. Or another option would be to go where work in your field is, maybe a move?? Another option start your own business, your might need assistance, and use the resources available. Go back to school... And go at your own paste and do the best you can!! God loves you ver much!!!