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When I go to a party I always end up helping in the kitchen or taking pictures!?

I cannot seem to be a cool person at any party. I always have to keep busy in the kitchen or I'm taking pictures. I've tried so hard to just sit and drink wine or go around talking to people. Thats hard for me to do. So I always end up Keeping busy so I can avoid talking to people. How can I break my bad habit and just be cool and have fun. Thank-you for your help.

Public Comments

1. bring a social friend that way if you can't say anything she can bring something up!
2. Hi Annie, its nice that you spend time helping people but you need to make time for you! You have to learn to realx and speak to people, the more you do it the easier it will get. If its the fact that the crowds are too much for you break yourself in gently, invite a few friends over and if you have want food etc, get it ready before they arrive. Make a point of just chatting to them! Dont do anything if they are your friends they can get what they need themselves! If its the amount of time you have to be sociable for that worries, arrive at parties a little later, just till you get used to the small talk that is sometimes needed! I'm sure you will be fine, take care and be strong! :o)
3. I think people who help in the kitchen and people who take pictures at parties are very cool. It's a fine way to keep yourself involved with the party if it's hard for you to just drink and talk. I think you'll find that people in the kitchen are drinking wine, too, and also talking...and that people like to have their pictures taken and will often talk to the photographer, especially if you have a digital or cell and offer to show the picture to that person... etc. If you're busy in your own kitchen alone at a party, be sure to ask for help, wine bottle in hand... Don't worry about it so much and you'll find that your 'habit' isn't so bad nor is it lifelong. Good luck!