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Will the Navy ship my vehicle along with my household goods? I currently accepted a job offer with the Navy. According to the offer they will cover the cost of shipping up to 18,000 lbs of my household goods, according to the Government Bill of Lading. In addition to my household goods (less than 8000 lbs) under the Government Bill of Lading, will the government also ship my vehicle (3000 lbs)? Yes, I will call them to be sure, but I wanted to get an idea before I called.

Where is my household goods money from the Navy? I got out of the Navy on Feb 18th, and I did a self move. The Navy gave me 60% of the moving money up front, and I was told I would receive the other 40% after I moved and mailed back all the paperwork. I sent everything certified mail to Business Support Department FISCN HHG AUDIT TEAM DIV CODE 302 1968 GILBERT ST, SUITE 600 NORFOLK, VA 23511-3392 just as the paperwork told me to do. How long does it take them to process the paperwork, and when I can expect my other 40%?

can i ship household goods from australia to the usa under military move??.? i am from australia and married an american who is in the navy. I have some household goods in Australia that would be very useful to us when we make our next move. is there a way for us to get the stuff shipped here under the military move program or shipped at a cheap price

whats better royal navy or household cavalry? im stuck on which one to join as an officer, i like the fact that both dont offer 9 to 5 and as an officer in both they have varied roles so never get boring, i like the pomp and ceremonial of both, and promotion is good but i cant choose, and which is better incase i deside to leave the navy/army? i have an A* in english i just dont write proper english when i dont need to

No household goods/car shipment to Hawaii? My USMC nephew is finishing school in San Diego and has immediate orders to Hawaii at the end of this month (his first duty station). His command there is telling him they will not ship his few household goods or his car over there because he's in a "student status" This sounds like total BS to me, but we did 23+ years in the Navy and don't know how different it is for the marines. He is married, surely they don't want them to go over there with no HHG or transportation, get a place off base and expect him to what? Buy a bike to get to work, her to go to school, commissary? Anybody know the rules on this?

Do I have to pay customs for my household goods if I retire in the Philippines if so how much? I am a retired US Navy, but I was recruited in Subic when there was still an agreement between the US and Philippine government. Is it true that we are allowed to bring back our household goods tax free?

Moving, PCS, Household goods? I'm done with A-school. Back home on leave. Of course my command did not counsel me on any of this moving stuff and im getting different answers all around. Was told to use smart web move to have my personal property moved from san antonio to whidbey island, WA .The web site said they dont operate in this area. Yes , I'm married. Somebody please. How do i get my things moved?! I'm in the navy btw. First tour, shore duty.

Can I collect BAH while deployed on an IA mission? I am a navy reservist, and may be mobilized early next year as an Individual augmentee. I rent a house with my friends but do not want to break my lease since it would raise the rent of my roommates. I am single and have no dependents, but do own a lot of household goods. Ive already asked some of the guys in my reserve unit but I got the impression they have never heard of BAH and might be cavemen.

is it true that the NAVY doesn't pay for the retirement move for a civilian ? I was told by HR that the NAVY does NOT pay the retirement move of household good for a DOD civialian employee. That is crushing news for me. Every other agency, the Army, Coast Guard, even AAFES, does pay for the last move. Any chance we could get the move paid ? Please help... it is so difficult. It would mean having to get rid of most of my stuff.... @ Pete T: "some" civilian is also a Vietnam Veteran. You obviously have never been in the Military and therefore don't qualify to answer any questions regarding it. again @ Pete T: I read on another post that you too are a Vietnam Veteran. So I apologize for what I said. Just don't be hateful towards civilians.

Navy Move To California? My husband is currently working on the program called SMARTwebmove to arrange for me and our household goods to be moved to San Diego. Now I know that he stays busy because he's on hold and constantly getting told to do watches or work detail but I'd like to know from anyone that has used the SMARTwebmove program how long it took you to finish it. And how long it took before you received a response after you completed it. We know no one can tell us exactly when I will get to move out there but someone who has experienced this would be a great help to my patience and expectations. Thanks!

early return of dependents (navy)? I am trying to find out how to go about getting an early return of household goods from an overseas duty station. My childern and I came back to the states, and when we got here, my husband informed me that we could not come back to live with him. He has everything including my personal items and the kids animals. He has told me that I cannot even come back and visit to box up the things that belong to the kids. Does anyone have any experience in this?

Marine wife, duel military couple. How can we get put closer together? My husband and I have been married for a few months now and have a 2 month old son. I'm in the Navy, stationed out in Hawaii. He's in the Marines, stationed in California. So, my question is...how can we get stationed closer together? He's been trying to get his command to help him get transferred out to Hawaii because he lives in the barracks and doesn't have anything but a sea bag and a few suitcases worth of things. Whereas, I have a apartment with a year lease, a cat, all my household goods and of course our son. At this point, it appears that not only is his command NOT going to help us, but that the Navy seems to be able to better afford to move it's manpower (aka me) around. So, anyone at all that can help or has gone through this situation please feel free to answer and contact me. Any help is better than no help. Thank you for your time.

Who pays for civilian travel orders to the US? My family is presently command sponsored Army civilians in Japan. The Army made a commitment to pay for our return PCS to the US. The Navy has hired the sponsor to work in Egypt. Both the Army and Navy agree that orders can be cut which would allow the dependent family members to have delayed travel in the US for a couple months while the sponsor flies directly to Egypt. Both agree that the Navy should pay for the tickets from the US to Egypt, but they don’t agree about who should pay for the trip from Japan to the US. It is the Navy’s contention that the losing command (Army) should pay for the ticket from Japan to the US, since the Army is responsible for returning both the family and its belongings to the US. The Army counters that the gaining command (Navy) should be responsible for the entire move, to include the return of household goods and family members to the US. I would like to know whether there is a specific regulation which covers this question. Who is right?

Landlord is trying to charge me an extra $300 after move-out!? I lived there from August 2007 - April 2009 and had a security deposit of about $500. When I moved out the maintenance man had a walk-through inspection with me and said I would only be charged a cleaning bill. I (think) I have a walk-through assessment but all of my paperwork with this apartment is in my household goods shipment and I won't have access to it until December or January time frame. I left my contact information at my home address of Los Angeles, CA. Approximately in June 2009 my family received a message from them asking for almost $300 more in collections! I was stationed in Japan with the Navy from May 2009 - September 2010. I asked my family for an itemized bill but no word. I'm not sure what happened, if it was my family or the agency that dropped the ball. Now they are asking again for the collection amount plus interest of $39.13 for a total of $314.87. I have yet to contact to them directly but yesterday I called the management agency and left a message. They have referred this to a creditor service. My question is, should I continue to try to contact them or try to contact the creditor service? I am not worried about my credit score at all, but I am worried that they may try to bring this to small claims and collect the $300. I am in the military, but the only protection that provides is by prolonging any action. What should I do? NEW UPDATED - OCT 5th Called the collection agency and requested a hold until January. They refused and stated that the burden of proof was on me, the tenant and not the apartment management. Since they have receipts billing me for new paint and a new restroom counter that is enough "proof" to show I caused the damages. I told the collections that I could not present this proof of a walk-through until January. She said I should have taken pictures, etc. of the entire apartment to show that there were no damages. The agency is going ahead and reporting me to the credit bureaus without a hold. Do I have any protections? Should I call each credit bureau and explain everything? Will I be wasting my time?

What is the process of an Ad-Sep like? I'd asked a question on here the other day about weight waivers for the Navy, but that doesn't seem to be in my favor. The PRT cycle starts in 5 weeks and I'm trying desperately to lose weight between now and then (which is difficult, because of a stress fracture.) This would be my 3rd PRT failure if I don't make it, and my husband and I would be on our way home. Both of the other PRT failures were because of issues related to this injury that medical on post just refused to acknowledge until recently, when it seems to be too little too late. I know that on average it takes about a month to separate, but in that meantime would I be able to set up transportation for household goods and my husband to get back to Florida? Our plan is, if this does happen, for him to move back home a.s.a.p. and for me to live in the barracks until I leave, so that way he can get an apartment set up and have been settled already. Also, I only have 1.5 years of service in, would I be eligible to keep any sort of benefits or would they all get yanked? Thanks in advance to anyone who can help me out here, we're not really sure where to turn to for answers at this point. And please, no flames about this topic. I'm a hard working sailor who has fallen into bad circumstances due to an injury.

Trouble with younger sister who is in the Navy? Ok, My sister and I are both adults, and she is younger then me by ten months. We are both 23 and 24. She joined the Navy and ever since then has been treating me like she is better then me, not to mention older. I have a job now, and have held a couple jobs in the past, and have even supported my own household as well as other people in it, so it is not like I am worthless or anything. I have a college education, she doesn't. Anyway, I am staying at her house with my 11 year old cousin, and she is treating me the same way she treats the 11 year old. She is even going so far as to refer to me and my cousin as Children, which irritates the crap out of me, and has imposed a bed time on both of us of 12:30. She also wakes up both up and demands that we get up at 7 AM, then complains that It is our fault for not wanting to get up because we chose not to go to bed on time, when I am the one who has to sit up and argue with the kid about her bedtime, which I have told her tonight I will not do anymore. She was in bed last night at 12:45. I am an insomniac, so I did not make it to bed until between three or four am. I am also infuriated because she acts like I am weak and pathetic because I drink mountain dew and she does not, and she makes comments about my weight to me all the time. I am 5 ft 7, and wear a size 18. Yes, I know I am overweight, but I am not grotesque. I stay right at 200 pounds. I do not know how to deal with her, and beating her up is not an option. We are both fairly even when it comes to physical contests, although she has learned to hit harder while in the military. Any ideas on what to do with her? Every time I talk to her, she turns everything around and tells me to chill, and will not discuss the issue at all, and makes me look like the bad guy for bringing it up, as though she has the right to treat me like that. What is your opinion?? We are just visiting her for the summer before she deploys to Afghanistan for a six month tour, although she has expressed several times that she wants me to move in with her. we where living together for a while before she shipped to the military, but since this new attitude change, I really don't think it would be a good idea to move in with her. btw, she is married and I am not. Her husband is an awesome friend and we both have a lot of respect for each other.

What can the navy do for me? Please Help,and answer!? Im a senior in high school im trying to decide on what to do after high school. I didnt do good my freshmen and sophmore year of highschool so i dont have a very good gpa and have no one to help pay for college if i choose to do that. what are some ways to get money for college if your on your own? I have already talked to a navy recruiter and trying to decide if its for me. The pros ive found are a for sure place to live (because been kicked out with nowhere to go), a job ill have no matter what instead of out in the civillian world with the recession the growing number of peole getting laid off and even hearing about people with degrees not being able to find a job, also life insureance and dental, a chance not to be in a hectic environment and households like in now, also i wont have to go to a two year college if do the navy my recruiter said (also plan to get college credits while there he said by online courese which are accredited for). The cons i can think of are being away from friends and some family members when not fighting with them. Also having to get use to the new life. If anyone could please help me id be very greatful. If you could tell me what you think about the situation in my case and also about navy life and what it was like for you and if youd ever reenlist or not and if so why or why not. Sorry this was not very well formated and punctuated i just have alot on my mind lately and if i go i plan on being acive in the navy.(will i be able to make friends easy there and enjoy myself or will it feel miserable and wanting to count down the days, some people say alls you do if your on a ship which almost all jobs in navy are on ship is cleaning the ship is this true? (another quick note i took the practice asvab and scored a 39 but i know need to get a real good score so can get a good job its december so can really wait awhile to sign up since graduate in may)

Household Question - Homemakers I really need your help!!! 10 pts, of course!!? Hi Ladies (and maybe a few men too, right) - I am at my wits end with this situation. My husband and I recently moved and we are now using the appliances that were in the home (meaning I cant take this issue up with the manufacturer bc I didn't purchase them). The washing machine is ruining all of our clothes!! Every time something goes in, it comes out with these stains that are the same color as whatever the item is, but a darker shade. I hope you can picture what Im saying. For instance, lets say Im washing a navy blue polo top, it will come out with these darker blue splotches ALL OVER IT, like a cow print. Im absolutely enraged by this - every single item of clothing we have (husband, daughter and myself) is appearing ruined. First I thought maybe they were soap stains, like the garments weren't being rinsed well enough, so the residual soap was leaving these marks. So I tossed everything back in the washer and ran a full cycle, but without soap (they were already clean, I was just trying to scrub em together and re-rinse). It didn't work. If it was soap, it woulda came out, right? Next I tried not fully loading it so each item had plenty of room and water (I use "super size", even when its a small load, just to try to help - even tho it kills me to waste water like that!!), thinking this would solve it. Nope. I went and purchased a different soap and fabric softener, really expensive ones, thinking that may make a difference. I tried Dreft, which prides itself on being gentle and its clear too, rather than the standard blue (even tho, none of these stains are "blue" unless the item was blue already). Even our whites are all stained up, these blotches are everywhere, it almost looks like the garment(s) are wet - you know how a wet cloth will look darker than a dry one - that's how it looks, like there's wet spots all over everything. I've tried oxy clean and those new Tide Stain Remover pouches (the ones that look like the dishwasher tabs) - NOTHING is working. Im so upset I could burst into tears (literally). Sometimes I cant see the stain until the item is ironed. I iron EVERYTHING any of us is going to wear. It takes a really long time, but I like my family to look and feel nice. Imagine how upset you would be if you spent HOURS ironing dress shirt after dress shirt, only to find a buncha stains on em halfway (or all the way) through. My husband just left to go to a funeral, I ironed SIX shirts for him until I found one completely stain free (it had never been laundered here). This is crazy, I dont know what to do??!!! Sure, I could dry clean some things, but I cant take my toddlers clothes and all of our "play clothes", jammies, jeans, etc. to the dry cleaners - that's insane, no one would do that. Ladies - anything like this ever happen to you? You've ever seen these kinda stains on your laundry? PLEASE, please give me any ideas/tips you have. Ya know, clothes are not like dishes, if my dishwasher in our new home didn't work right, I could hand wash my dishes, no biggie. I cant hand wash our clothes. What CAN I do guys??? PS - Were in an apartment currently, so replacing the machine is out of the question. And I did call maintenance - they said there's no way the machine was at fault, and that there was nothing they could do to help me. True, I don't know?? After just spending a couple hours ironing clothes that I just now threw back into the hamper has me very upset. The only thing that will make me feel any better is to know what its going to stop happening. Then Id just rewash everything and call it a day. But no, there's no end in sight. Im sitting here thinking, "why should I even throw these things back in the washer, its not going to help, not at all....". PLEASE, if you know what Im talking about and you know what I should do, PLEASE PLEASE tell me. I seriously don't know what to do and Ive had it! I cant imagine taking all of our clothes to a laundromat and sitting there all day (with my toddler!) - I haven't had to do that since I was living in a college dorm. That's not to mention the added cost. Please help, thank soooo much!!! So these are the things Ive tried, nothing has worked, none of us have anything to wear that's not stained to hell, and I don't know what to do about it.

Help with custody of Son!!? The quick rundown of the situation is this: My ex and I have split up, and we have a 7 month old son together. The child is mine, and there is no doubt of that. I was told to get out of the house, and send text saying that my stuff would be packed in my car, and I was not welcome back. Since then she has been telling everyone I left for no reason, and that I am a coward. She is 23, a high school drop out with a GED. I am a 25 US Navy Veteran, served honorably, and am currently enrolled in college trying to lock in a future for myself and my son. Since this incident, I have made numerous attempts to pick up my son so I can spend some time with him. Each time I am told that can come 'SEE' my son at her house. The situation is so volatile, I fear that she would make claims that I stole something, or hit her and honestly I don't want to subject myself to the verbal abuse and lies that will be waiting. I have been told taking him overnight was not an option. I have contacted a Family Law lawyer, and have an appointment on the 10th of this month. I plan to use printed screenshots of the status she has left on Facebook, claiming 'Why hang out with my son when I can just drink away my child support money at the bar" and multiple times she writes about going out. Included in these screenshots are pages of comments belittling me, calling me a coward and a deadbeat dad. Additionally, I have proof that our son has not been to a doctor since he was 1 month old, which scares me. The mother and child are on their own insurance, as I do not have any. When I called to attempt to set up an appointment for him, I was told I was not allowed since I was not listed on the insurance. Not to mention that I work 50-60 hours a week, not getting home until after all the doctors offices are closed. Next, she has 2 DUI's pending, and has a court date on 2/2/11. She has 2 DUI's on the court docket, along with careless driving and Approaching an oncoming vehicle( A state trooper). Our town just lost 2 residents due to DUI related deaths, and the Judge that ruled on the cases is the Judge she will be seeing. Lastly, the only other person she has to watch our son is her mother, who is an admitted alcoholic. There has been many times that I have picked up my son after she was babysitting him, and she reeked of beer. This has ALWAYS made me uncomfortable, and any time I would bring it up to my Ex, she would accuse me of trying to cause rifts between her and her mother. Since the break up I have filed CPS reports on her for the drinking while my son is in her care. She has told me that I can TAKE my son home for one day, but only after I give her $800 for the bills at the apartment. I was also told that she was going to cash the check before I can take him. She does not need that much cash, as she will most likely be spending it on clothes for herself, or at the bar. If I were to write "For Deposit Only" on it, can she still keep my son until the check clears? I know she will be losing her license, and possibly facing some jail time. I am attempting to get full custody of him, mostly because he is in much better hands with myself. I have a steady income(Benefits from the US Navy) and a stable household to live in with him( My parents are letting me rent a room, and my 14 year old sister is available to babysit). What I would like to know is if this is enough evidence to show that she is not fit to have custody of him. This whole situation has turned her into a very spite full person, and it would kill me to know that she can still walk away with full custody of him. She has filed child support paperwork already, and I will have my lawyer file the full custody paperwork when I meet with her. Any help would be GREATLY appreciated, as I am being torn apart by not being able to see my son. I feel like a piece of me is missing, PLEASE HELP! Yes, I contacted the local Children and Youth division, and was told this was a custody battle, and there was nothing they can do. They were going to forward the case to the supervisor, and they would get in contact me within the week. I was told by Children and Youth that "You cannot force the mother to make the child take a vaccination" which I am not trying to do, but for god's sake he missed his 2nd and 3rd Hep B boosters!

could someone help me with my economics hw? 1. Which of the following is most likely to be purchased in the factor market? You will choose two answers for this question. Shampoo and dog food Cement and copper wire Opera tickets and sushi Automobiles and deodorant Dirt and timber Question 2 (Multiple Choice) If Mark sells cattle to a meat packing plant, Mark is part of the ____________market. The plant is a ___________. This question will have two correct answers. resource, monopsony buyer resource, household resource, firm product, firm resource, part of the circular flow Question 3 (Multiple Choice) Which of the following is most likely to be sold in the product market? You will choose two answers for this question. Labor and bulldozers Oysters and stopwatches Cereal and holiday stockings Caulking and cardboard boxes Labor and heavy equipment Question 4 (Multiple Choice) In the circular flow model, households tend to provide which of the following? You will choose two answers for this question. Labor, land Rent, wages Interest, capital Labor, capital Receipts, rent Question 5 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points) Money that flows from the product market to firms is called (There is one correct answer.) savings. debt. mark up. revenue. cash. Question 6 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points) Goods purchased in the product market are usually purchased by (There is one correct answer.) firms. monopsony buyers. households. banks. government. Question 7 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points) In which market structure would you most likely see vigorous competition for labor and capital? This question will have one correct answer. Monopoly and pure competition Monopolistic competition and monopoly Monopoly and oligopoly Pure competition and monopolistic competition Question 8 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points) Which of the following is the best example of a monopsony? There is one correct answer. The local cable television operator A movie theater A grocery store in a town of 48 people The U.S. Navy The Congress of the United States Question 9 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points) In the circular flow model, products tend to flow from the firm into the ____________ market. This question will have one correct answer. Household Product Credit Card Factor Monopsony Question 10 (Multiple Choice Worth 2 points) In the circular flow model, money tends to flow in the form of __________ from the resource market to the household market. This question will have one correct answer. Interest Wages Debt Savings Credit

Why sholudn't Prince Harry be given the chance to sevre? I do not know if the SAS rumour is true but there highly trained individuals who helped train Delta Force and the Navy SEALS to where they are now. If there are any special forces individuals who are protecting harry while in theatre I'm sure they're honoured and stepped forward for the job so its not for us to criticise. Harry's joined my regiment the Household Cav. and we are proud to have him with us. He is an Officer and a Royal so he is bound to have special circumstances, and if he wants to go out and get some action good for him, because anyone who joins the army does not join to sit in the mess all day and lads who go out there with him will find tough but if they come home they will be truly proud to protect. It is in our oath of allegiance ' to protect Queen, Country, Successors and Heirs and those who serve over us'. So please bare that in mind before you start to criticise. This is a military issue not a civil one so civvies if you got an issue complain to your local MP. Ex- forces we've been trained and served we've seen what our senior officers are capable of when they've put their mind to it so we should be able to trust their judgement. There is one thing people forget alot of people in the army do like action and if being with Harry gets them action it is 'Happy Days' for them, some are not thinkin im goin to get shot, their thinkin how many rounds am I gona get off today.

How do I make my make-up look better or prettier in your opinion? Okay, here's all the item's I have access too; Plain Eyeshadows: Gray Light Gray Navy Lightblue Dark Blue Skin Color Light Pink Hot pink Light Purple Shimmery or Sparkly Eye Shadows: Sparkly White Shimmery Gray Sparkly Black Sparkly Light Gray Shimmery Gold Blushes: Sparkly Skin Color Plain skin color And, If there's anything else I can buy, ( CHEAP ) that will look good, please tell me :) I'm 14. I have dark blonde hair, with side bangs, and it's to my shoulders, and I have green-ish eyes, and i'm middle complected, not too dark, but not too pale either. I want to make my make up look better. Oh, and I DO have foundation even though I didn't list it. Here are my questions: 1. What are some good make up tips for summer? 2. What are some different ways to do my hair? 3. What is a natural look I can do, just for like being at home and going place's with family and such? 4. Is there any way I can make "home make up" ? Lol. I was just wondering if there is any way I can make something here with household items. That's my main question's, but if you have any advice, feel free to tell me :) Oh and if you please, at least a few sentences for an answer, please. Two words really dont tell me anything.. Not to be rude.. oh, and when explaining, please use the things i have(: and some of the other things i have access to are: Shimmery Eyeshadows: Light Brown Dark Brown Gold Darker Red. Tan Blushes: Sparkly Peach color Tan Thanks in advance :)

Choosing a career to go to school for at 23... what should I do? I would first like to thank everyone who answers this question in advance. A little detail about my situation: I am a 23 year old male, engaged to be married, and father of a beautiful 2-year-old daughter. I drive a forklift at a factory to support my family, which doesn't pay badly, but is usually extremely stressful for me. I have been with the company I work for for a total of 3 years as a TEMPORARY employee, making significantly less than full-time hires and absolutely no benefits. I have been laid-off numerous times for numerous reasons, sometimes for a week or two, sometimes for 3 months or longer. I am tired of my position and the company I work for, simply because they obviously don't appreciate my value as an employee beyond the cost to cut my paycheck. Although I am ready to move on to a better career, I have found it extremely difficult to do so, as I am the major breadwinner of the household. The job I hold is currently one of the better paying ones in the area for someone who has only a high school diploma/GED, and I cannot afford to make less than I do right now. So, being in this situation for some time now, I have come across a couple of options: Go back to school, or join the military. I have since been rejected from the Air Force and Navy, respectively. This was due to minor medical reasons I was unaware of from birth which were apparently unwaiverable, although I had scored a 97 (of a possible 99) on my ASVAB and had shown the aptitude to qualify for any career in the military. As a (future) husband and father, I have no desire to be shot at as an army soldier or a Marine. Nothing against school, I was just confident that the military would take care of me and my family and put me in a good direction to start a career. That obviously didn't work out. So now I've decided that I need to go back to school, but this poses its own problems. I don't have the time to raise a family, work a full time 3rd shift job AND sit in a classroom, unless I give up sleep almost entirely. Also, based on multiple personality tests, I am better suited to a career that is creative/artistic in nature (musician, painter, etc.). However, I am more worried about bringing home the bacon, so to speak... as an avid musician for 15 years, I would love to play for a living, but my family and I enjoy a few other conflicting pastimes, such as keeping warm, not sitting in the dark, and eating. Being as such, personality tests aside, I am more suited to a job with financial stability. As you can see, it seems to be that I have painted myself into a proverbial corner. I apologize for the long-winded explanation of my situation, but I felt it was necessary to fully understand it. Any help with this conundrum would be greatly appreciated!

Would you be satisfied with this? What would you do? Ok long story short when I became 14 or 15 my mom stop buying my clothes and shoes for school until christmas! Which means I had to wear one pair of the same shoes for years un till they fell apart. I got my own job on my own at 16 years old, then my mom lost her job and even though I made $150 every week I gave her $100 every week even though she had savings; while I was struggling check to check to pay my own cell phone bill! I worked for about 6 months until she told me I had to pay part of the cable/internet bill; I was also in school at the time. I finally graduated 2010 and I had to finance a cheap car for $4500 to get around cause my mom always nagged about taking me places after I got my car (still paying for) I got a promotion at my job to a manager $9/hour. I am on my moms insurance I pay my own $200 insurance my own $250 a month car note/ my own $72 phone bill(Family plan) and $50 to $64 a month for cable and internet, I feed myself and basically take care of my self while living with my mom, I live check by check every 2 weeks now just to pay these bills! I never have any of the money I work hard for for my self, maybe only $50, but that goes towards my gas. When I received my state refund my mom asked for half and I gave it to her, when I get my federal she wants half cause she won't get anything from her taxes. My brother just came back from another country and he isn't making any effort to find a job to help out! He sleeps all eff-in day and won't even put the dang dishes up in the dishwasher. My step father just left my mom so now she is stuck with $1250 for rent +utilities. I told her before to leave him and she didn't listen now she is stuck in a bind. My bf just went to navy boot camp and I am trying to save money so his parents and I can go to the Graduation in 6 weeks! I understand him leaving her or whatever, but I been pitching in the household since I was 16!!! I am tired of this and I am enlisting in the Us Navy as well to get away from this lifestyle, because there is no money for college, I just turned 19 and my mom is against me going to the Navy, she always has something negative to say, but I am trying to better my self and think of my future. Am I wrong for feeling like this?? What should I do? I been doing this crap since I was 16! With all my expenses except for the cable that is a whole check with only $46 left over! WTF, yes she is my mother and she took car eof me, but she also put me in the situation to live with my effin stepfather that molested me years ago! I don't drink nor do I smoke illegal drugs, but now I wish I did. I know this is very long, but if anyone could help it would be greatly appreciated. Please help! I am flipping out and she is getting mad cause he whole check had to go towards rent, thats not my fault I told her not to get involved with him as a young girl! Now look at the situation! I also have a baby to take care of (my cat) she has been with me for years I am the only one taking care of her. I also have a capital one card, but I know I wouldn't be able to pay the bill so I don't use it! I am still paying it back from the last time when I had to help out around the house, which the card was almost maxed out. PLEASE HELP ME, I don't want to work my self crazy with a second job! How the freak am I going to get a job in this economy, I have been trying! I already work 5 days a week 10hours a night. Am i suppose to work myself crazy?!!?!?!?! Jamie your answer is just pissing cause obviously you can't interpet what I have typed. Illiteracy I suppose? Yea I went there. Some times not even 10 hours, I am a young manager so really how can I balance 2 jobs if I am always at my job! Popeyes treats their employees like shiz!

Can I be younger than 18 if I want to join any branch of the army? My parents always tell me I am not as good as my older sister and that I am lazy and never do anything ( I am only 13) I want to get away from my parents actually start my life so I need to know if I can be younger than 18 to join the army . I have the weight of the world on my shoulders right now I have to do good in school I have to be a part time mother for my 1 year old sister and be just as good and do everything the same as my 17year old sister while doing household chores and knowing that my parents will not pay for my college if I leave when I turn 18.I think that joining any part of the army wether it's the air force or the navy It will help me to get escape from the stress of everyday life.

Married to one man, in love with another - what should I do? I am from a poor family. My father died when I was two months old. I started working when I was twelve, as a maid. Then I was a painter's model and a dancer, then I lived with a well off boyfriend, Greville, until he decided to marry an heiress. Through this boyfriend I met my future husband. William is Greville's uncle. He is a British envoy in Naples. He is much older than me, but he loves me immensely, and he gave me a good life, for which I am very grateful. I help him in his career and look well after his household. But then, one day, we had a guest, a British navy man, and I was smitten. This man is a real hero! He adores me, too. But I am married, and he is married to some dull woman in England, a Frances Woolward. If he divorces her, it will ruin his career. No would I like to make my husband suffer, after all he did to me. What should I do?

Husband is putting his mothers wants before our needs! help!? My husband and I have been together for 5 years but married 3. His mother I love her but I feel like she manipulates my husband into buying unecessary things for her. My husband is in the navy, I'm a stay at home wife going to school. I'm 21 and hes 23. Yes we did get married very young but I do not regret anything. Well, we have a home. And our mortgage is $967 a month. My husband pays all of the bills and he takes care of me aswell. So you can imagine how much it is that he spends monthly on us. Before u start calling me lazy. I'm in college studying to get my bachelors and I should be getting it this year. And when I find a good paying job ill start helping him with some of the household bills. Anyway, his mom. She's really adorable and she's short and fillipino so she's always pulling the manipulation crap. It's starting to get me mad. Because she always wants my husband to pay for everything . It didn't bug Me until yesterday she asked him is he could pay for her KITCHEN REMODELING. which is going to cost atleast 5k. I'm furious. He told me that he might try to pay for it.. there's things we need... we don't have Enough house tools, we need a washer machine and dryer. And he wants to pay for her kitchen_! I'm going crazy. What should I do?! BTW, we have no children yet.

What do you think about this parenting style for a 13-year-old? I know it's long, but I need to disclose everything so you can get a better picture. I have a cousin who I feel is being controlled too much by his dad who is employing what I think is an authoritarian parenting style. What do you think? Description of cousin: 13 year old boy with mother and father (both genetic). He's the only child in the household. Has a step-brother (father's side) who didn't live with them, went to the Navy. Description of father: Military history. Claims to be concerned about teaching his son "responsibility." Advocates independence and learning not to rely on parents ASAP. Assigns chores such as feeding/grooming the dogs, emptying all household trash daily, dishes, preparing dinner, etc. When son missed a chore or didn't complete it in full like feeding dogs, threatened to kill son's pet turtles and dogs or have son shoot dogs in the desert, son cried (when his father wasn't around because father has always disallowed crying). Son gets no credit for partial work, it's all or none, and when gets asked why it wasn't done he gets in trouble for saying "I was thinking right" or similar. Son is limited to 1 hour of computer games/IM/email/whatever daily (excluding school work). Son goes over 1 hour of computer time and is now grounded from using it entirely until he's 18 (that's in 5 years). Father also takes away phone. Tells son that if you drink from a straw that "you must be good at sucking." As a result, son no longer uses straws in restaurants. Tells son to tuck in his T-shirts or he'll look like a slob. Son tucks in T-shirts now (even the brands like O'Neill). Told son before that shorts don't look descent. Son never wore shorts as a result. Son started cutting hair short a couple of months ago to match the hair of typical boys his age. Father doesn't like it. Son likes music, but father disallows headphone use because he thinks it's rude and distracts attention. Father disallows video game consoles. Requires son to get at least B's in all classes or grounds him or fines him money. Makes son read 2 hours daily. During son's summer break, requires son to read books and do written reports on them. Son typically is not allowed to sleep in beyond 8 AM, must be awake around that time. "Since I can't get rid of you (because he's under 18), I can take things away from you." Overall, typical punishments include frequent/lengthy restrictions on phone, computer, TV, freedom to leave house, board games, etc. Has fined money from son. Uses the F word when reprimanding son. Description of mother: has always covered up for son. Always reminded son of chores so he doesn't get in trouble. When son misses a chore, will even do it so his dad won't get mad. Allows son to go over the 1 hour time limit on computer when dad isn't around. Isn't restrictive or opinionated as his dad is. Parent's plans: The good... will double the money he saves for his new car at 16. Son will have to pay for insurance, so he will have to work. Will allow him to stay with them after 18 if he pays them rent. Encourage him to go to college at 18. Whether or not they will help finance it is not known. The questionable... parents have threatened to send son to foster care before (motive and whether they were serious is unknown). Question: Would you parent your kids this way and why. If not, what would you change? Thanks.

25 random teen survey questions:D? Random questions for anyone interested:D 1. Are you excited for Christmas? 2. What are you wearing right now? 3. What's your least favourite colour? 4. What countries have you visited in the last two years? 5. Do you like Justin Bieber's music? (not him, his MUSIC) 6. If you look directly to your right, what do you see first? 7. What phone do you have? 8. What is the combined age of you and everyone who lives in your household? 9. Put your iPod/iTunes on shuffle. What are the first 5 songs that come up? 10. What's your favourite subject at school? 11. What is the author of the last book you read? 12. What's the first word that comes to your head when I say 'course'? 13. From where you are sitting, what is the first thing you can reach that begins with 'L'? 14. What's more important; looks or personality and why? 15. What's the last film you watched? 16. How many letters are in your full name? 17. Do you own a pair of hair straighteners? 18. Who is your inspiration, why? 19. What do you think the point of life is? 20. When eating a burger from McDonalds, do you leave the gherkins in or take them out? 21. Add together the date you were born -(eg. 5, 12, 24) to the month you were born eg 1 (january), 7 (july), and then multiply it by the number of items of clothing you are wearing (yes, this includes underwear!) 22. What was the last word you spoke out loud? 23. How many Christmas cards have you personally recieved this year? 24. Do you cut the cellotape with scissors or with your teeth? 25. What was the last text message you recieved? My answers: 1. Are you excited for Christmas? Yes! 2. What are you wearing right now? Purple jeans, Christmas socks, underwear, navy vest, cream knitted jumper. 3. What's your least favourite colour? Grey. 4. What countries have you visited in the last two years? Australia, China, Belgium, and UK (home). 5. Do you like Justin Bieber's music? (not him, his MUSIC) Yes, I love him AND his music. 6. If you look directly to your right, what do you see first? A curtain 7. What phone do you have? Nokia C3 - getting Samsung Galaxy s2 in 4 days:D 8. What is the combined age of you and everyone who lives in your household? 118 years old. 9. Put your iPod/iTunes on shuffle. What are the first 5 songs that come up? James Blunt - 1973, Alesha Dixon - Breathe Slow, Boyce Avenue - Just the Way You Are, Glee Cast - Baby, Justin Bieber - Overboard. 10. What's your favourite subject at school? Geography or Spanish 11. What is the author of the last book you read? David Klass 12. What's the first word that comes to your head when I say 'course'? Golf 13. From where you are sitting, what is the first thing you can reach that begins with 'L'? Lamp 14. What's more important; looks or personality and why? Personality, and because it means more to have someone who is nice to be with than someone who's horrible but good looking. 15. What's the last film you watched? The Inbetweeners Movie 16. How many letters are in your full name? 17 letters 17. Do you own a pair of hair straighteners? Yes 18. Who is your inspiration, why? Justin Bieber, because he worked his way to where he is now, and he tells us that anything is possible and that dreams do come true. 19. What do you think the point of life is? To make the world better for future generations, sadly we are not achieving this right now due to global warming etc 20. When eating a burger from McDonalds, do you leave the gherkins in or take them out? Out!! 21. Add together the date you were born -(eg. 5, 12, 24) to the month you were born eg 1 (january), 7 (july), and then multiply it by the number of items of clothing you are wearing (yes, this includes underwear!) 91. 22. What was the last word you spoke out loud? I can't remember! 23. How many Christmas cards have you personally recieved this year? About 15, not good I know hahah 24. Do you cut the cellotape with scissors or with your teeth? Scissors 25. What was the last text message you recieved? 'Me more!'

duties of the housewife? Hello, this is my first time asking a question on yahoo but i have read some good stuff and i hope to bet the same. i am in the navy and i am the only source of income for my family of four. my daughter is 3 and my son is 7 months. my wife and i have gone round and round about housewife duties and its quite obvious that we disagree. i bring in the income, pay bills, provide her with the majority of the stuff that she wants(not needs) and on this basis i do it 95% of the time without concern or disagreement. i also come home from work and play with the kids, change diapers, give baths and read bedtime stories and all that good stutff. granted we do take turns, i don't do it every night nor does she. but what i am truly concerned with is the house. it is almost never clean. all i have asked her is to have the house clean, do the laundry, mop the floors make sure the dishes are done, sweep and vacuum. common household things that need to be done are not getting done. being in the military it is no easy job. sometimes i work super long hours and want to come home and take a nap and she bitches. when i come home dinner is never ready to be served. half the time i am the one cooking dinner. half the time i am the one cleaning the house. i understand that there are two kids at the house and it might be difficult but i tell her to make it happen. i go to work, you need to have the house clean. im not asking for everyday to have the house clean but more times than not i am asking. everyday she wakes up around 8 or 9 or 10/ i understand that my son who is 7 months wakes up routinely throughout the night but that is part of breastfeeding, you still need to wake up and get your shit done. i do not want to come home from work anymore and have to suck up all the discontent. what do i need to do? am i truly in the wrong? someone provide some advice please!

Time to call it quits? Time to call it quits? This question has been haunting me for some time now, and I thought I'd gather some opinions. The disclaimer- it will end up being way too long, with lots of drama. My situation- I have been married for almost 12 years. I have been Active duty in the US Navy for 15 years, 5 years left to retire. Throughout our marriage there has been no infidelity on the part of myself, nor my wife. I am not perfect, and don't know anyone who is. We have 2 kids elementary school age. Just before, and then early in our marriage, my wife developed problems with anxiety/depression. These problems have spiked and dipped throughout our marriage. I have always tried to be caring and supportive of her during these times, and have educated myself in regard to helping her through. She has always managed to cope at home during my deployments with support from her family and friends for "big deal" situations. Almost 2 years ago, she had a knee injury, which was surgically corrected. I was able to be at home caring for her, the household, and kids for over a month. Most recently, I have been issued accompanied(the family can go too) orders to the West coast vice the East coast where I have been stationed for a while. My wife isn't sure she can adapt to the new environment. Her condition has since deteriorated. She is going to counseling, and they have been switching her medications in an attempt to help her. Now as always, any suggestions I can make to help her are perceived as criticism. My wife worked when we were first married, she is currently a stay at home mom, with both kids in school during the day. She rarely cooks, barely cleans, and when discussed, she insists that the majority of the housework, cooking, and childcare items can be done by myself when I am home after working during the day. Her attitude is-" I have to do it when you are gone, so you can help me while you are here"/"my knee hurts". Much of her day is spent watching television, or on the internet. She insists that all of her problems are caused by outside stimuli (i.e. myself and the Navy).As part of my slow descent into hell, we currently have sex only 1.5 times monthly. She has a libido level of zero, and will use sex as a prize to be gained, when I'm not being told that's all I ever think about( I am the only one to ever initiate). I currently will be leaving the family here, and moving to my next duty station as a geographic bachelor, with the possibility of the family moving with me later in the year. I am currently trying to prepare our home for moving without any emotional or logistical support from her. She talks of our move(80% of her comments are negative), and has failed to help whatsoever in preparing household items for a move. We've known for months where I was being transferred. Her only step forward has been her medical and counseling visits. I can't help but find myself thinking that it's her way of saying, "I'm not going, I'd rather stay here" I have arrived at a point where I can no longer see the true reality of things. I try to ignore her outbursts, behavior, and dismiss them as symptoms for the sake of being supportive, while creating even more distance in our relationship. I have resigned to near abstinence, as I am tired of begging. I've tried to hold it all together for the sake of our children, and a fading ideal that things will get better. Even some of my wife's family members describe me as a saint while saying my wife is lucky to have me, not understanding how I am able to keep it together. I'm starting to feel like I deserve to be branded as a pathetic loser for continuing my futile efforts. I feel that I have given 99.9% to this marriage, without anything in return, as things continually degrade. My family has always been first, but the scale of the problem in my opinion is holding be back in my military career. I feel that I am being taken advantage of. Am I setting the proper example for my children by living with such unhappiness? Can I live like this forever? If I could have peered into a crystal ball a decade ago, I would have dropped whatever I was doing and ran like hell. I find myself dreaming of a life outside of this marriage, or in a relationship where mutual love and appreciation occur. I'm told that I'm attractive, intelligent, and feel I would have much to contribute. I don't want to compromise my own sanity trying to "fix" things for my wife, it still isn't working. I can't help but wonder if by me leaving her on a permanent basis, she would be forced to confront her problems on her own, thereby improving her condition. Am I a sucker or a saint? PLEASE ADVISE, OVER...

I am being mistreated by my snobbish mother-in-law and my husband isn't doing a thing!? Well...hey. I got married to my husband a couple of months ago, I'm 23, he's 25. Anyway, my mother-in-law has always loathed me and when my husband (back then my boyfriend) took me home for dinner for the first time a year ago the woman was openly criticising me for everything. Now I've married her son, and she keeps on finding excuses to call me a "gold digger", "dangerous woman" and "home wrecker" (how the HELL am I a home wrecker? Her son wasn't with anyone so I didn't wreck anything! If anyone's ruining relationships, SHE is). And she openly tells her son to "watch his back for people eyeing his money" in front of subordinates and managers! She's given me the job as one of the managers at the company, and she overloads me with work. The other day, she took me shopping with her friends, and she openly told me to carry her Gucci handbag for her, without saying thank you! And she told me to "know my place". I was wearing a navy blazer over a white dress, and she said to me that my blazer would be better if the shade was a little lighter. She also criticised dress' stitching at the neckline, and told me that as her daughter-in-law, I ought to have better taste. Yes, her brown cape jacket is very chic. Yes, her white blouse is slightly better than my white dress. But she was openly being a bitch to me in front of all those people! When her son bought a pair of earrings for me, she took them for herself! And, the thing is, my husband is doing NOTHING about it. He just watches his mother bully me! I can't stand this household any longer! And she spends ages at the salon, she made me wait for her AT THE SALON for hours! By the third hour I just left. Couldn't stand the woman any longer. I couldn't just wait for her doing nothing!

Time to tap out, or prolong the pain? This question has been haunting me for some time now, and I thought I'd gather some opinions. The disclaimer- it will end up being way too long, with lots of drama. I apologize for the re-post, just gathering more thoughts... My situation- I have been married for almost 12 years. I have been Active duty in the US Navy for 15 years, 5 years left to retire. Throughout our marriage there has been no infidelity on the part of myself, nor my wife. I am not perfect, and don't know anyone who is. We have 2 kids elementary school age. Just before, and then early in our marriage, my wife developed problems with anxiety/depression. These problems have spiked and dipped throughout our marriage. I have always tried to be caring and supportive of her during these times, and have educated myself in regard to helping her through. She has always managed to cope at home during my deployments with support from her family and friends for "big deal" situations. Almost 2 years ago, she had a knee injury, which was surgically corrected. I was able to be at home caring for her, the household, and kids for over a month. Most recently, I have been issued accompanied(the family can go too) orders to the West coast vice the East coast where I have been stationed for a while. My wife isn't sure she can adapt to the new environment. Her condition has since deteriorated. She is going to counseling, and they have been switching her medications in an attempt to help her. Now as always, any suggestions I can make to help her are perceived as criticism. My wife worked when we were first married, she is currently a stay at home mom, with both kids in school during the day. She rarely cooks, barely cleans, and when discussed, she insists that the majority of the housework, cooking, and childcare items can be done by myself when I am home after working during the day. Her attitude is-" I have to do it when you are gone, so you can help me while you are here"/"my knee hurts". Much of her day is spent watching television, or on the internet. She insists that all of her problems are caused by outside stimuli (i.e. myself and the Navy).As part of my slow descent into hell, we currently have sex only 1.5 times monthly. She has a libido level of zero, and will use sex as a prize to be gained, when I'm not being told that's all I ever think about( I am the only one to ever initiate). I currently will be leaving the family here, and moving to my next duty station as a geographic bachelor, with the possibility of the family moving with me later in the year. I am currently trying to prepare our home for moving without any emotional or logistical support from her. She talks of our move(80% of her comments are negative), and has failed to help whatsoever in preparing household items for a move. We've known for months where I was being transferred. Her only step forward has been her medical and counseling visits. I can't help but find myself thinking that it's her way of saying, "I'm not going, I'd rather stay here" I have arrived at a point where I can no longer see the true reality of things. I try to ignore her outbursts, behavior, and dismiss them as symptoms for the sake of being supportive, while creating even more distance in our relationship. I have resigned to near abstinence, as I am tired of begging. I've tried to hold it all together for the sake of our children, and a fading ideal that things will get better. Even some of my wife's family members describe me as a saint while saying my wife is lucky to have me, not understanding how I am able to keep it together. I'm starting to feel like I deserve to be branded as a pathetic loser for continuing my futile efforts. I feel that I have given 99.9% to this marriage, without anything in return, as things continually degrade. My family has always been first, but the scale of the problem in my opinion is holding be back in my military career. I feel that I am being taken advantage of. Am I setting the proper example for my children by living with such unhappiness? Can I live like this forever? If I could have peered into a crystal ball a decade ago, I would have dropped whatever I was doing and ran like hell. I find myself dreaming of a life outside of this marriage, or in a relationship where mutual love and appreciation occur. I'm told that I'm attractive, intelligent, and feel I would have much to contribute. I don't want to compromise my own sanity trying to "fix" things for my wife, it still isn't working. I can't help but wonder if by me leaving her on a permanent basis, she would be forced to confront her problems on her own, thereby improving her condition. Am I a sucker or a saint? PLEASE ADVISE, OVER...

Need help. Majorly depressed and suicidal.? My name is sam, im 17 and i cant stand living anymore. I have failed at everything in life. School, friends, parents. i cant even fuckin think straight anymore. I failed all of highschool, eventually got expelled for drug possesion and started attending the local community college. I had so much motivation to do better and thought i could do it, but ended up failing once again. i live with my mom step dad and step sister. My twin sister and dad live about an hour away. Im currently the freak of my household. They all think im a fuck up and im weird and it really kills me because i loved these people. They want me out of the house and im so scared because i have no where to go and have only my GED. And to make it even worse, my step sister is like a parents wet dream and she makes it her life goal to impress them. Couple nights ago we all had dinner and i left early becuz i felt like such an outcast and wanted to cry. Ive had so many chances in my life to make things better but have failed each and every time. I feel the only reason i keep myself alive is so i dont hurt my twin sister who lives with my dad. She doesnt live my my mom and step dad because she once felt the same way i did and attempted suicide. On top of all this, i feel like an outcast when it comes to friends as i can never be myself around them or become close with any. I feel this might be a result of my best friend dying years ago. So i basically feel alone and ashamed with no direction in life. I spend most of my time in my room getting high and playing video games to dodge these feelings. Recently i decided i should join the navy. It would bring structure and discipline into my life as well as direction and respect. However, i have 2 felonies which are preventing me from enlisting. I talked with my judge about dropping or lowering the charges and she seemed open to it. Im scared that she might just want to expunge them which might seem great, but unfortunately the military has access to expunged records. I feel as if this is my last chance to make something of myself but the fear of not getting in keeps me up all night. Im so brutally scared that this might not work out and feel i have no choice but to end my life if it doesnt. I cant take the look of disgust from the people i love anymore. It makes me physically sick and i feel as if im going crazy. So i just need some tips from anyone who reads this. How can i handle this anxiety and depression? What am i going to do if i dont get into the navy? I need any kind of guidance as i feel i am too emotionally weak to help myself. Thats all, thanks

My Sims 3 won't work, please help I've tried everything!? I had the Sims 3 for Christmas and all the expansions and stuff packs to date. It's been playing fine, no glitches or errors. I even upped the graphics on it in order to make the game look better, nothing happened, it's running perfectly. I have custom content installed, a lot of them are people because I don't like the in game hair styles or clothes, I have about thirty sims downloaded. It's been working fine as well, and then I started downloading some lots. Nothing wrong there either and then all of a sudden two days ago after I started playing again after having a break, it crashes! It's crashed 12 times in two days, I've had the blue screen of death twice. It sort of goes black and then there's the arrow, navy, black, navy black and then the screen goes completely black and the only way to solve it is turn the computer off, ctrl, alt delete or alt and tab won't work. I figured it must've been the three lots I downloaded on Friday, so I deleted them all and some of the custom content clothes I didn't want. And now it's even worse, it loads the neighbourhoods fine and the household fine, but after playing for about five minutes it blacks out and it's doing my heading. It's not the graphics card or anything like that, my laptop's a month old I recently bought it to replace my old one that broke down. The guy even told me it'd run Sims 2 and 3 fine and dandy and it has, until a few days ago. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you

Army ROTC in college? Specifics. Female. Army Reserves? Go reserve to active? Medical Service Corp Officer.? My name is Paige. This is a lot to read, but I am being as thorough as possible to get the most helpful of answers. I am currently 18 years of age, I weigh 130 lbs and 5'6'. I am currently going to a community college, transferring to a university for 3 years, then going to pharmacy school for 4 years. During that 4 years, I plan on joining the Army through the ROTC program. I have never been in ROTC even throughout HS. My dad is not supportive at all. I grew up as "daddy's little girl," which I am now, currently regretting. Family is very important to me. However, I am very strong willed and hard headed, though, I know when to respect others. I have an issue with people telling me that "I can't" do something. I am an adventurist, I like to follow my dreams, I want to make more of myself and I care for others. I have wanted to join the military for a while. The navy would be my first choice, though no navy rotc programs are offered at any in-state pharmacy schools. I plan on joining the Army Reserves because I would get the best of both worlds. Civilian and army life. Here are my questions: 1. Please describe, and be very specific, the Army ROTC program offered at colleges. I love having a family away from family. I love the idea of teamwork. I need to know more about PT, hair (I am growing it out now), did you enjoy it? I'd really like information from someone that's real, not someone trying to sell it to me. How often is uniform going to be worn? 2. I plan on being a medical service corp officer (pharmacy) in the Army Reserves. I realize that I won't be going to OBLC III, but a more condensed, 2 weeks version. Can someone please describe this to me? What I would need to bring, not bring, etc. Where will I more than likely be stationed at? I have heard maybe Texas, because they deal with medical. 3. I like the sound of the Army Reserves because it sounds more active-based than the guard, plus, I have more of a chance of traveling more, and seeing other places, because the Army Reserves are federal, not state-owned, which is what I want. Would I be able to switch over to active duty army if I was in the Army Reserves? 4. My dad is not supportive at all. I understand and have expected everything that has come out of his mouth. This is emotionally draining, though. I am 18, but that does not mean anything in my household. He just doesn't want to see me go overseas, which is also understandable. I have thought about this, though. I have thought about everything he has told me, which has not at all been good, about the military. To him, if I am not agreeing with him, and doing as he says, then I am not listening. I am taking into consideration everything, but I am very goal-oriented, independent. He tells me I can't do the Army, that I am not the "type." All of this, makes me wanting to do the Army all the more. However, I cannot say anything to convince him to give up on trying to convince me otherwise. Help? I want to serve my country, and acheive something great. I don't know why but I have always liked the military. I am not afraid to get down and dirty. I know when to show respect to my peers, boss, leader, etc. I have thought about going overseas, and what may happen, there is never a guarantee of coming back. Yes, I am scared, but I try not to let fear govern my actions. If you could please help with these questions, it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Paige.

Diane and Matt’s Blended Family....? Dianne and Matt’s blended family is finally starting to actually feel and function as a real family. They spent two long, grueling years trying to meet everybody’s needs and although things are far from perfect, they’re doing better. The new blended family has five members. Matt brought two teenage girls into the relationship. He refers to them as his “princesses package deal.” Matt’s first wife divorced him five years ago and no one has seen or heard from her since. She was an artist before the girls were born. Weaving was her passion and her creations were extraordinarily beautiful. After the birth of both girls, she no longer had the time to pursue her weaving. This led to a deep but untreated depression and ultimately led to their divorce. Matt knows he could probably find his ex and take her to court for back child support, but what would be the point? He makes a good living and suspects that she moved to Mexico to do her weaving in the little fishing village they used to visit near Cabo in the early part of their marriage. One princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Amy. She’s 16 and her entire life rotates around school and friends. She has her driver’s license and works six hours a week at Old Navy, where she also spends most of her paycheck. Amy wants to study languages and is already fluent in Spanish and French. The glamour of studying abroad is motivating her to keep her GPA at 3.8 or above with hopes of one day working in Homeland Security as a “code breaker.” The more explosive princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Lori. She’s 14 going on 30. In typical early adolescent flare, her acid tongue lashes out against everyone in the family without regard for the consequences. She calls Amy “little Einstein” while her own grades are hovering in the C- and D range. Lori is begging for a tattoo. “All I want is a little ink on the small of my back,” she pleads. “No one will even ever see it.”Matt is firmly against this, even though Dianne has a small rose tattooed on her left ankle. Usually Lori stomps off to her room after one of these arguments. She’ll slam her door and crank up her music, creating tension and frustration throughout the household.Dianne also entered the marriage to Matt with a “package deal” of her own. Gracie was born three months after Dianne’s husband was killed in Afghanistan. He was career military, as were his brother and his father. Death was discussed openly, but even so, Dianne’s pregnancy made the shock of his death even more intense. Now Dianne and Gracie are enjoying their new life loving Matt. There’s just one little thing that’s worrying Dianne at this point. Four year old Gracie swears like a sailor! At first, Dianne couldn’t believe her ears. Gracie threw her Barbie down on the floor and yelled, “F***, you’re a bad doll.” Dianne didn’t know what to do, so she did nothing. Maybe she heard it wrong. How could innocent little Gracie know such a vulgar word? Dianne had almost convinced herself that this was just an awkward coincidence when Gracie got frustrated trying to button her jacket. “S***, this is hard,” said sweet,innocent Gracie. Dianne shuttered when she realized this was no awkward coincidence. When she asked Gracie where she learned those words, Gracie just shrugged. “Lori says them all the time,” Gracie answered, having no idea what she just said. .What is the best way for Amy or Lori to respond to Gracie when she uses vulgarity? .How should Dianne and Matt handle the situation if Gracie uses vulgarity in public?

Dianne and Matt’s blended family is finally starting to actually feel and function as a real family...? “Diane and Matt’s Blended Family” Dianne and Matt’s blended family is finally starting to actually feel and function as a real family. They spent two long, grueling years trying to meet everybody’s needs and although things are far from perfect, they’re doing better. The new blended family has five members. Matt brought two teenage girls into the relationship. He refers to them as his “princesses package deal.” Matt’s first wife divorced him five years ago and no one has seen or heard from her since. She was an artist before the girls were born. Weaving was her passion and her creations were extraordinarily beautiful. After the birth of both girls, she no longer had the time to pursue her weaving. This led to a deep but untreated depression and ultimately led to their divorce. Matt knows he could probably find his ex and take her to court for back child support, but what would be the point? He makes a good living and suspects that she moved to Mexico to do her weaving in the little fishing village they used to visit near Cabo in the early part of their marriage. One princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Amy. She’s 16 and her entire life rotates around school and friends. She has her driver’s license and works six hours a week at Old Navy, where she also spends most of her paycheck. Amy wants to study languages and is already fluent in Spanish and French. The glamour of studying abroad is motivating her to keep her GPA at 3.8 or above with hopes of one day working in Homeland Security as a “code breaker.” The more explosive princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Lori. She’s 14 going on 30. In typical early adolescent flare, her acid tongue lashes out against everyone in the family without regard for the consequences. She calls Amy “little Einstein” while her own grades are hovering in the C- and D range. Lori is begging for a tattoo. “All I want is a little ink on the small of my back,” she pleads. “No one will even ever see it.” Matt is firmly against this, even though Dianne has a small rose tattooed on her left ankle. Usually Lori stomps off to her room after one of these arguments. She’ll slam her door and crank up her music, creating tension and frustration throughout the household. Dianne also entered the marriage to Matt with a “package deal” of her own. Gracie was born three months after Dianne’s husband was killed in Afghanistan. He was career military, as were his brother and his father. Death was discussed openly, but even so, Dianne’s pregnancy made the shock of his death even more intense. Now Dianne and Gracie are enjoying their new life loving Matt. There’s just one little thing that’s worrying Dianne at this point. Four year old Gracie swears like a sailor! At first, Dianne couldn’t believe her ears. Gracie threw her Barbie down on the floor and yelled, “F***, you’re a bad doll.” Dianne didn’t know what to do, so she did nothing. Maybe she heard it wrong. How could innocent little Gracie know such a vulgar word? Dianne had almost convinced herself that this was just an awkward coincidence when Gracie got frustrated trying to button her jacket. “S***, this is hard,” said sweet,innocent Gracie. Dianne shuttered when she realized this was no awkward coincidence. When she asked Gracie where she learned those words, Gracie just shrugged. “Lori says them all the time,” Gracie answered, having no idea what she just said. 1) How do you think Lev Vygotsky would respond to Gracie’s use of vulgarity? 2) How can Dianne and Matt avoid shaming or otherwise negatively affecting Gracie when she uses vulgarity? 3)What is the best way for Amy or Lori to respond to Gracie when she uses vulgarity?  4)How should Dianne and Matt handle the situation if Gracie uses vulgarity in public?

Prequel to The Sound of Music? I have an idea for a prequel before The Sound of Music or Von Trapp Family and it sounds very good to me! It's about Captain Von Trapp when he was younger, way before he met Maria, and when he fought in World War 1 and the Emperor Decorated him as an Austrian-Hungarian captain in the navy. Why Herr Zeller hated him, and when his wife died, but we don't know what of. And why he actually forbids music and merriment into the household. A sequel would be pointless because they travel to Switzerland, and in the real story, they travelled to America and did other usual things we don't know of. I think a story from Georg Von Trapp's point of view would be good because so mahy things happened to him before. It was explained a bit in The Sound of Music, but never a full detailed story. What do you think? I don't know if there is a book about Georg Von Trapp already though?? Comments like "It would ruin The Sound of Music" would be unappreciated for this, because it would sound interesting from Von Trapp's side!

Is this a feasible plan for my family? Background: I am happily married & my husband is in the navy. We have three children that are 7 & 2 year old twins. My husband will be leaving for deployment toward the end of March. He will be gone for 6-7 months. We have military orders to move back to CA. We've decided that it would be best for me & our children to go to CA, while he's deployed. Our children can start school on time. And help them get settled in as well. We are already guaranteed housing, because two of our children are EFMP Category 3 & 4, and I'm a Category 3 as well. Part of the plan: We are going to go through all of our possessions in the next month, and just scale everything down. We've accumulated a lot of things over the last 10 years of marriage. Get rid of old junk, older furniture, old toys etc. Go through our storage units (yes I said UNITS), and just clear everything out before he leaves. We want everything down to the bare minimum. We have a contract with PODS to have people pack up our belongings and load them into the box. Then unload our belongings at our final destination. We are shipping the little car that he drives to & from work to CA, and it will be stored in the garage until he gets back. What's happening: I'm having an elective tummy tuck & breast reduction in July. I use to weigh over 340 lbs. Now I'm down to a healthy 145 and still dropping. My body never bounced back after having three babies. Plus being obese all of my adult life has caused a lot of issues with the my skin. I'm tired of having the skin over my stomach literally hang down to my knees. I need at least a 6 week recovery period. My children know what I'm doing, and they are glad to see "Mrs. Flap-O-Skin" disappear. My brother & sister in law generously offered to take care of my children while I have my surgery. I'm driving my children to my brothers house in Washington. I will be leaving my 10 passenger van in my brother's possession. My children will be with them from the last week of June until the second week of August. I will be in AZ having my surgeries. My mommy & gram will be there to help take care of me. Two of my best friends are nurses and they live right near my mom & gram. They will be taking care of me if I have any medical needs. The surgeon performing my surgery is married to one of my best friends. So I know I'm in good hands. I am sending all three of my children to a day camp for 6 weeks. I'm also paying for my nephew & niece to go as well. I'm giving my brother money to hire a nanny to help care of the kids, so that they aren't a total burden on my brother & sister in law. I'm helping to pay for food, gas, activities, and a few other things so that my brother & sister in law won't have to come out of pocket to pay for anything. What else do you think I could help them with? Goal: Is for me to have a stress free surgery & recovery. I think that I've thought of everything. I plan to remain with my mom for 30 days, and then go back to CA to get my household set up. Buying new furniture, appliances. Bascially getting it ready for when my children come home. I will be flying up to WA to get my kids and drive my van home. Do you think this is a feasible plan?

am i being to old fashioned part 2? i didn't know it was going to be this hard to have step-children and no my husband is only on my side about 2% of the time when it comes to his kids also he makes me feel like the bad guy in front of the kids.Also in June we had all the kids(his ex-wife was homeless again).we she finally came down she had a broken foot(her husband did it to her) her husband took off with the van and left her at our house.Her city is 3hrs away.that was on a friday.she got a motel for the night.but than she came back.I told my husband she can't stay here.when i got off work at 10pm she was still.there.when i woke up sun . she was still there.i told my husband i don't care if he has to drive her back i don't want her there.i came back and she was still there.i was really mad.you know what that female never asked me if she can stay.when my husband finally took her back monday(labor day) she didn't even tell me thank you.her family lives in the same city of me.they don't want nothing to do with her.she has 5 kids and three are my husbands.the 12yr girl father was a crack addict and never in her life.my husband is the only father she know.i told him how it was disrespectful to me that she was at house.He said there wasn't nothing he could do she didn't have a place she could go.see i was never asked if she can stay.They just get along for the kids but they really don't get along.Plus i work 2 jobs and i put in more money in the household than him.He has 3 kids at the house and i put in 300 more a month.i decided not anymore.i don't run up the bills.oh by the way he said back in June he was going to put more money in because of the extra kids.how can he he don't make that much.so guess what i did.but that is going to change.i am going help pay the bills,but grocery's are going to be cut way back.if something is said i will tell him you don't do anything to get your kids to stop making pigs of them selves and they keep the TV;s and lights on allot,take long showers and his boys all they do is play video games and come and go when they want to.Don't get me wrong i do love his kids(except one the 16yr that lives with his grandmother that came one night in the house high he has been smoking weed and i told my husband he is high ,he didn't say anything to him ,he is not allowed to live in the house anymore i said so or i will leave)see i was divorced 14yrs i made it ,it was hard but i did.Both my kids have graduated.my daughter is married,going to school and in the Navy plus a wife and a mother to a 14month old.i made mistakes with them.but i think i did pretty good. there is only 3yrs between my husband and I.

My sons fiancee lives with us but wont contribute in any way. She thinks its wrong for me to expect her to.? My son is in his last year of collage and lives with us. In December he asked if his fiancee from another city could move in. I agreed but suggested that she pay the small sum of 100.00 to help out a little with the extras. He stated that she would naturally not be able to do this until she found employment. Her parents would also be paying her bills, credits cards, car loan, insurance etc until she could get on her feet.. She enrolled part time ( 4hrs per day - 4 days per week) in our local trade school and will be finished in Febuary 2009. She has a part time job also. My son goes to school full time, was working 40+ hours per week and now works part time and pays his own bills, credit card, car payment, insurance etc. He graduates in May 2009 and leaves for the navy in June. They are to be married in March 2009. My problem is this after 10 months her parents are still paying her bills and she refuses to contribute anything here. The money is not important. However my husband and I are not well and disabled and have to have other family members help us out with chores around the house when they fall behind as they often do. She refuses to do anything. Her idea of cleaning her own mess up is to sit her plate in the sink. She states that she should not have to help with other messes. I have talked and argued with her. I have told her that I find her rude, self centered, spoiled (her mother even cleaned her room for her until she moved here) and disrespectful. She tells me she is a very generous person and would go out of her way for anyone. She may see herself that way but no one here does. I put a daily chore list up for everyone in the house. She refused to do hers because she said everyone was not on the list. The only ones missing at that time were myself and my son. My husband and two other children were on it. I was not because I have MS, diabetis and neuropathy which makes it very difficult. Since I pay all the household bills and buy all the groceries and necessities I feel I do my part. I added my son and put up the new chore list. It did no good either. On top of this she asked if she could have a kitten. I agreed as long as she paid for its shots and got her spayed. She has not and plans on leaving it here and moving back with her parents in June until my son finishes boot camp. She also goes behind my back and complains about me. I have heard she tells people she hates me and the town we live in and can't wait to be out of here. We get along in other ways but I was raised and raised my children differently then she was. All I am asking her to do is wash dishes and wipe off the kitchen counter twice a week and pick up the upstairs bathroom once a week. Am I asking too much?

Would you report sailor with known drug addiction/drinking problem? A very good friend of mine is married to a sailor who has a cocaine drug addiction (and uses other drugs) and is also an alcoholic. She has asked me to report him to his supervisor (because she doesn't want to be the one filing the report). His family doesn't want to get involved because they feel he's a man who should solve his own problems. It's gotten to the point where he spends most of his paycheck on drugs/alcohol and doesn't help his wife with household expenses. Should I call his supervisor? Has anyone else been in this type of situation? What are my options? Is there a Navy website that gives advice on this type of situation? I have direct knowledge of his abuses/problems. She is my friend, and he happens to be my bro-in-law also. Me and everyone in his family has seen him in action when he's in town.

Can anybody interpret this dream? Okay. This dream has me shaking right now. This is the most disturbing dream that I have ever had.= tl;dr- got the shit beat out of me, almost killed in the process I dreamed that a girl that I once knew moved back into my neighborhood. For some reason, my dad threw out my cameras, so I had to fish it out of the dumpster. So that girl stopped and started to talk to me. After a while, we went to her house and had sex. When we were almost done, her parents walked in on us. Her dad asked me to get dressed and come downstairs. This man was no ordinary man. He was as strong as hell, so I did as he said out of fear of this man, and getting a little scared, and her dad asked me some questions downstairs. I can't remember exactly what he asked me, but something that I said put him into a catatonic rage. He beat the sh1t out me in front of her entire family for a good while, and I passed out. The next thing that I knew, I was in a truck riding with him somewhere out to an abandoned residential/ industrial household He told me that he was "taking me for a ride". I told him that I need to call my dad and tell him that I was going to be away so that he wouldn't worry about me. He handed me his phone, and said that if I try to ask for help, that he was going to kill me. So I texted my dad; telling him that I was at a friend's house. Now, in real life, this friend actually lives several miles away from me, but in this dream, he lived in my own neighborhood. He got out of the truck, and unlocked a house. There were bags that were stacked floor to ceiling high full of Arsenic, which appeared in the dream as just green toxic waste. So he then started to pull out the bags with his bare hands, and then said "hey. you're eighteen, come over here and help me" At this point, I was getting to relax a little more around him, even though I was still as scared as hell out him, so I started to pull out some bags in his house. After a few bags, he splashed some of that toxic Arsenic in my mouth, and then he apologized and then said that I need to get some water to wash it out. I looked around, and saw that the only water around was some muddy, poisoned water. So I noticed a tiny pipe coming out of the ground with water leading down to a very deep cavern. This was just some pothole in the road that was a very deep pothole, being hundreds of feet deep. So I lowered myself into the cavern, holding on by my fingers on a tiny ledge, when he pulled me out of the cave by my hair, and then said "you tricked my daughter into having sex with you" and then I said, "Yes, and I got the sh1t beat out of me, and I've paid for it". He then pulled me up to eye level, and then dropped me into the cave. I got a hold of the same ledge, and then crawled out into a hole in the wall of the cavern which led into a house, which was some kind of portal that led back into our same neighborhood. I realized that I had to get away from this criminally insane person, so I just legged it, fearing for my life the whole way. I tried to run to the same friend's house that I told my dad that I was spending the night with to call for help and barricade myself against that monster, and then I realized that he would chase me for ever. While he was chasing me, he started doing that Native American war call that they do with their mouth and their hands. I woke up before I was caught, or I reached the house. Additional notes: I started sleeping on the floor a while back, even though I have a bed. Since then, I have had some of the most vivid dreams that I have ever had in my entire life. I could go months without a dream when I was sleeping in my bed, but now, it seems like every night's dream is more intense than the last. I am also shipping out to the American Navy in 2 months, and my entire life has been revolving around that for 10 months. I have no idea what the significance of the camera is. I realize that this very well may be a past life experience, or maybe even a warning of future events. Sorry for the read, I had to get it all out there for my own purposes, I literally just woke up. What do you think?

Parents: (Mostly mom's) Do you ever...? Go in a store to buy one thing like detergent or some household items and come out with a basket full of things? If so what store do you do it in the MOST and normally who or what are the extras that you buy? I ask this because I went into Wal Mart swearing I was just going to replace my broken iron and come RIGHT back out. Big mistake I came out with $150.00 worth of stuff. As I walked I saw a sell on bottled water, then plug in's in a new scent, then pretty Dora sippy cups, then for cute little Disney short set's for my son, then four skirts and tops for my daughter, then a floor mirror toy of my son and then cheap little spare bottles oh and a baby bag!!!!! Ah I was so upset I had let myself spend so much but instead of putting it all back I bought it and now here I am hoping that you all will help me feel better about my constant splurges when I go into a store!!! LOL... And don't let me go into Old Navy, Children's Place or Rainbow and say I am just going to buy them as outfit or two I did that last weekend and came out with $210.00 worth of stuff!!! HELP LOL.... DOES IT EVER STOP???LOL How do you mother's control your spending?

Why are some stay at home moms nasty to working moms? I have been working at the same Upscale barbershop for 10 years. I work about 35 hours a week, and I LOVE what I do! I have 3 kids that are 7, 6 & 5 years old. They will be 8, 7, & 6 in June. I've always gone back to work with in a few weeks after I give birth. When my youngest child was a year old, I went back to work full-time. I have NO regrets about making this decision. By the way, my spouse is in the navy, and he will retire in 4 years. I've been going to the same church since I was pregnant with my eldest son. I love going there, because I truly love where I worship. Most of the moms that go there are stay at home moms, and a few of us work. But there is a general attitude among the stay at home moms that when you have children, you should become a home maker. I found that I am a much better mom when I work. I NEED the adult interaction that my job allows me to have. I love my children very much, but I can't be a full time stay at home mom. The money that I earn allows me & my husband to provide the extras that his normal paycheck won't cover. Like karate lessons, yearly trips, and whatever we feel that our children need. Besides I earn MORE money then my husband does. 60% of what I earn is going toward my children's education, my retirement fund, and a nice down payment for a house when my husband retires. The other 40% goes to tithing & household expenses like telephone, groceries, gas for our cars, insurance, clothing for our family and other incidentals. When my husband retires he will be a full-time, stay at home parent, and I will be financially supporting our family. This is what he wants to do, and I see no reason why not. But there are stay at home moms at my church, that think he should still be the one to provide for our family. I've heard some really nasty comments from a few of the moms that I won't repeat on here. I'm just wondering why this happens? I'm not a full time stay at home mom. My children are in a before & after school program, and I feel comfortable that I'm making a difference in their lives. We sit down & eat dinner every night by 6:00 p.m. My kids have already done their homework. Right now my children are in bed, and asleep. They have had their dinner, played with their daddy, had their nightly bible story etc. Of course there is a part of me that feels guilty that I am choose to work, every working mom feels this way. My profession allows me the flexibility to be there for my children if they are sick or injured. I'm able to attend all of their PTA meetings, honor roll teas, and their school plays. I'm able to attend my eldest sons IEP meetings, and take my children to their therapy appointments on mondays. I'm there when they have their karate tournaments etc. Most working moms don't have that type of flexibility in their schedules, but I am very lucky that I do. The owner of my barbershop is a father himself, and he knows how I feel about my husband & children. They will ALWAYS come first. Can anyone clue me in as to why some stay at home moms are so nasty to working moms?

How do i fix my lack of social skills? 10 pts to best answer!? i dont know why but i have a hard time talking to people. i dress fine and not to brag in any way but i am sort of pretty. whenever i am around people i am very quiet and when i do talk it is usually something rude. i blame my past childhood. growing up all i heard was drunken idiots throwing stuff on walls and cussing and complaining about money. i had friends but they never really talked to me because whenever they asked to come to my house i told them they couldnt because of the problems at my home and that i usually couldnt go spend the night at other peoples houses.whenever i talked to somebody at my house it was always something meant ot piss someone off because everyone hated each other in my household. anyways there i s a lot of secrets i hide...like that i am big boned (for those of you who think there is no such thing think twice my doctor even told me i was and i have a long history of it) and i do i lot of crash diets ( i am trying to stop) it just sucks how big boned people cant have flat stomaches. i eat perfectly healthy when i am eating, but either way my whole stomach area looks deformed. i still convince myself that it looks better than having a a belly with 3 fat huge fat rolls. i dress in all the new clothes from hollister and aero and wet seal and old navy and stuff but clothes and makeup dont work. its the social part. like when people text me i wont text back so people stop texting me. im too lazy or afraid of what to say. please help! thanks

Am I expecting too much from my sons fiancee? My son is in his last year of collage and lives with us. In December he asked if his fiancee from another city could move in. I agreed but suggested that she pay the small sum of 100.00 to help out a little with the extras. He stated that she would naturally not be able to do this until she found employment. Her parents would also be paying her bills, credits cards, car loan, insurance etc until she could get on her feet.. She enrolled part time ( 4hrs per day - 4 days per week) in our local trade school and will be finished in Febuary 2009. She has a part time job also. My son goes to school full time, was working 40+ hours per week and now works part time and pays his own bills, credit card, car payment, insurance etc. He graduates in May 2009 and leaves for the navy in June. They are to be married in March 2009. My problem is this after 10 months her parents are still paying her bills and she refuses to contribute anything here. The money is not important. However my husband and I are not well and disabled and have to have other family members help us out with chores around the house when they fall behind as they often do. She refuses to do anything. Her idea of cleaning her own mess up is to sit her plate in the sink. She states that she should not have to help with other messes. I have talked and argued with her. I have told her that I find her rude, self centered, spoiled (her mother even cleaned her room for her until she moved here) and disrespectful. She tells me she is a very generous person and would go out of her way for anyone. She may see herself that way but no one here does. I put a daily chore list up for everyone in the house. She refused to do hers because she said everyone was not on the list. The only ones missing at that time were myself and my son. My husband and two other children were on it. I was not because I have MS, diabetis and neuropathy which makes it very difficult. Since I pay all the household bills and buy all the groceries and necessities I feel I do my part. I added my son and put up the new chore list. It did no good either. On top of this she asked if she could have a kitten. I agreed as long as she paid for its shots and got her spayed. She has not and plans on leaving it here and moving back with her parents in June until my son finishes boot camp. She also goes behind my back and complains about me. I have heard she tells people she hates me and the town we live in and can't wait to be out of here. We get along in other ways but I was raised and raised my children differently then she was. All I am asking her to do is wash dishes and wipe off the kitchen counter twice a week and pick up the upstairs bathroom once a week. Am I asking too much?

Western Civ. Questions.? Exam in two weeks!! and out of the 100 questions I have to know, I can't seen to figure these out. Please help! Thanks! 1) Sparta: A). required all citizens to do manual labor in order to preserve equality among them B). depended on the enslaved labor of helots C). was ruled by an elite, professional, mercenary army D). relied upon its navy for self-defense 2).Western civilization today looks back to ancient Greece as the epitome of the triumph of: A). physical development over peaceful contemplation B). reason and freedom over superstition and despotism C). pacifism and philosophy over militarism and physical activity D). isolationism and pacifism over colonization and war 3). The Greek polis was a: A).collective group or community organized around a city B). well-armed militia of all adult men aged twenty-one to sixty C). central marketplace close to the harbor D). protected area around the temple 4). Drama in classical Athens was transformed when: A). Aeschylus introduced additional characters and a chorus to stage presentations in order to portray human conflict and conversation B). Aristotle encouraged playwrights to set aside traditional epics and tragic works for political satire C). Aristophanes introduced Greek tragedy, designed to inspire the emotions of pity and fear D). Herodotus constructed the first amphitheater with seating and a stage for performers 5). During the economic decline of Greece in the fourth century B.C.E.: A). former soldiers often worked as mercenaries who disrupted the household-based culture of the Greek poleis B).Greek artists created sculpture that was increasingly idealized and dignified C).Greek drama reached its peak under the leadership of Sophocles, Aeschylus, and Euripides D). prices declined and taxes were lowered, allowing state treasuries to accumulate substantial surpluses 6). The Hellenistic world was, economically speaking: A). generally depressed due to the constant warfare between Alexander’s heirs B). subject to the same boom and bust cycles we see in today’s global economy C). generally prosperous due to the long-distance trade resulting from Alexander’s conquests D). none of the above 7). Why could the Greek city-states NOT unite during the fourth century B.C.E.? A). The Macedonians would not permit it. B). The independent temper of Greek political life made unity impossible. C). The Greek economy was too weak to support an empire. D). Unity was unnecessary because the Greeks were not threatened by any foreign enemies. 8). Aristotle argued that good conduct is virtuous conduct and that virtue resides in aiming: A). to separate the mind from the body and its pursuits B). to live a contemplative life in seclusion C). for the golden mean D). to involve all people (men and women) in the political life of the polis 9). What similarities did Stoicism and Epicureanism share? A).an emphasis on individualism, materialism, and universalism B).the presumption of an orderly, purposeful universe C).a tendency toward escapism and political disengagement D).all of the above 10). During the early Roman Republic, Rome: A). relied primarily on mercenary troops from Greece B). abandoned farming as a means of support and emphasized trade C). expanded quickly and peacefully into areas that were essentially unoccupied D). expanded slowly and extended the Latin Right to many of the cities it conquered 11). Under the Principate, upper-class women: A). were free to engage in intellectual and artistic pursuits B). could act as priestesses and civic patrons C). enjoyed a degree of sexual freedom not found elsewhere in the ancient world D). all of the above 12). Why did the Romans regard Carthage as a threat? A).The Carthaginian Empire in Sicily and Spain was encroaching on Rome. B).Carthage was a Phoenician colony and could call for help from Lebanon. C).Carthage commanded the vast resources of Saharan Africa. D).The Carthaginians had already conquered Egypt, Palestine, and Syria. 13). The greatest Roman Stoic, Cicero, believed that: A).through Christianity, Roman virtue might be transformed into a new system of social ethics B).Greek philosophy should be replaced with the ideals of republican Rome C).true happiness comes when one withdraws totally from public life and politics D).virtue leads to happiness, and peace of mind is the highest goal 14). Changes in the Roman law of marriage in the second century B.C.E. meant that: A).wives retained control of their fathers’ property, preserving their independence B).parental consent was required for marriage, and common consent for divorce C).husbands remained lords and masters, wives were treated like slaves D).it was practically impossible for women to educate themselves or their children

What is kilz paint made of molecularly? My wife got some Kilz paint of her navy blue pants and wanted to get it out. I didn't have paint thinner or mineral spirits. She put it in water which I knew wasn't right but then through OxyClean on it and I leaned towards acidic which would be good. Lighter fluid! That would probably work which it did. My wife said how do you know. I promptly answered 'Chemistry' with a grin on my face. It was perfect because I just committed to doing a Chemistry paper on household chemicals that very night! Thank you Jesus! I looked online but didn't see anything related to its chemical makeup. Nothing on the label besides oil-based paint which is kind of general and was hoping for something a little more specific. Any ideas?

I have questions with custody/support and paternity.? Hello. I am a single father of two beautiful children who I have custody of. My children and I went through a brutal divorce. I know, all of them are brutal. I was married for 19.5 yrs. I put my ex through nursing school while I was in the Navy. After I got off of active duty I moved back home. It was in our 5th year that we had our first child. Shortly after that I realised that my ex was having an affair. Well we separated for about 6 months. My ex wouldn't sign the divorce papers and we ended up getting back together. We got back together after we realised we were going to have a second child. Well here it is 19 yrs later and I am divorced. My ex was married less than a month later to the same doctor she had the affair with 19 years ago. I have a few questions. I live in Fl and my ex moved to NY. I am unemployed due to my ex. My ex is married to an e.r. doctor who is the director or assistant director of that er. My ex is an er nurse. Their household income has to be close to 500k. I do not receive child support. I kind of used it as leverage to get her to leave the kids. I stated that she has a chose, stay here in Fl and she would get custody or move to Ny and be with her boyfriend. She choose her boyfriend. Her exact words to the children were, "with or without you I'm leaving." I went to my attorney and stated that I wanted to ask for child support now. I'm taking on a lot for only receiving unemployment. My attorney stated that because my ex was so aggressive and has more money to piss away I should just let it go.She stated that my ex would probably just keep running up the legal fees and the those fees will probably out weigh what my children are awarded in child support. Any input on what I should do? I know it is usually best to use a lawyer but I thought child support is not something you can trade off. My ex pays for health care and the flight to Ny once a month, that's it. She doesn't buy clothes for them except while in Ny. My ex does fly down to Fl every once in a while. She does get them for the summer and we alternate holidays. Some issues that have come up lately are my ex's husband had been talking bad about the children's and my faith. We are catholic and my children go to catholic school. My son has come home stating not wanting to go to church. And the kids talked about joke that their mothers husband we saying about priests and little kids. And the next is my ex is trying to buy my daughter into wanting to move to Ny after my son graduates next years. She is stating that she would have a better life there and she could pick what ever school she wants to attend. I live in the marital home. My mother and grandmother come down and stay off and on throughout the year. So my children have a strong family structure here. Also, there has always been this question in my heart that I need to have a DNA test. What are your takes on that? I know that because the children have lived with me for more that ten years they are my children, but biologically they may not be. I would like to know and I think it could be important to them to know for health reason if they are not mine. Along those lines, after we had our second child my ex pressured me into getting a vasectomy. Is there anything I can do legally if my children are not my own and now I can't have children of my own. It has been over ten years. I know I have wrote a lot. Thank you for reading and I look forward to your advice.

I NEED HELP TO LET MY SISTER GET CUSTODY OVER ME? Im 16 years old and i really cant stand living in my household anymore . My mom and i dont get alone anymore at all. she works for 3pm to 11pm . she has 5 children including me. Im currently in school 10th grade. My brothers and sisters are in school. my oldest brother is not. he 17. I have a task to do as soon as i get home. i have to cook and clean for them. i have to manage to do my school work and im failing. my mom dosnt buy me anything, such as shoes and clothes. she dosnt do anything no more for me. before all this use to happen i was a B -C student now im a D-F student. i can no longer take it any longer. I told my sister what im going through and she said i can live with her she is 20 turing 21 in Jan. She is currently in the navy and can take care of me. i try and talk things out with my mom but she never wants to hear it. My sister told me she will take custody over me if my mom agrees with it. but my mom is not goin to let me go because she wants me here to take care of her kids. I cant do it anymore. PLEASE HELP ME . i dont kno wat to do. i tell my mom everyday im moving out of here. she also likes to hit me sometimes but its not serious hitting its more like in a "playful" way but i still feel it threating. How can i let my sister get custody of me and i move out of here so i can do better for myself. Oh and she also wont let me get a job. how can i take this to court . I JUST NEED HELP AND ADIVICE . this been goin on for about 6 months now Ohh yeahh and i started smoking which is a bad thing . my mom found out and might use it against me. Im goin to stop jus because i want to get out of the house. I dont know what i should do because of this

Is there a certain way bisexuals "date"? Help? So, I need some advice. I'm not sure if I should take a break from dating guys and actually give in again to my attraction to females. Let's take it from the top. I fell in love with my childhood best friend. She was the first girl I had ever had a relationship with. Both of our parents are Christian and growing up we knew that playing "girlfriend-girlfriend" was wrong, according to Bible teachings. Nonetheless, we were together for about 3 years. She went to the navy my sophomore year in HS and we pretty much fell off. After not speaking for 2 years, I looked her up on FaceBook. I found out that she moved on and was in a relationship with someone else. I was okay with it though, because I had moved on too. After she left for Japan, it broke my heart so I avoided relationships with girls. I felt like she left me hanging. But anyways, while she was in the military I dated a total of 3 guys. Only one of them was long term. He's the second person I fell in love with. The other two lasted a good 4months I'd say. Now fast forward, I'm in college, a sophomore, and there are females who flirt with me and try to get it in. I brush it off though because of my faith, goals, etc. I was raised in a devout household and do my best in fighting temptation. I'm also eager to obtain my science degree with minimal stress. I know that relationships might affect my studies. At the same time, I don't really know how it will be with a female. I've only been with 1. What do you guys think? Sorry for being long-winded. And thanks for taking the time out to read all this. @Dan - Thanks. It's like, I enjoy being single because I can worry about myself and do me. But I also want to be with someone who can take my stress away and be there for me. (In this case, someone to keep me company and reassure me that I can pass these midterms.) Wow. Does that make me sound selfish? Hope not :( @Crash - Yes, twice? Haha. I might be young but, I'm an old soul. People confuse love with infatuation all the time but, I know the difference. When I love, I love "forever". There are couples who are in college though. I'm not saying my relationship will be flawless. I know it's going to have it's ups and downs but, I think I'm ready to open up again. Of course I'm not going to make any commitments until after I graduate but, what's wrong with dating? I'm a Capricorn. I'm ambitious, this, I know. But I can't work without play. Then, I'd really be deprived. I guess this is why I'm asking this question in the first place. I hear you though. Thanks for the advice.

What kind of dog should we get? Hello, I've started the hunt to get a dog for our family! I am using Yahoo! Answers as just a little extra information. I will be rescuing/adopting my dog, and I will base the adoption off the personalty but what can a little extra knowledge hurt? Here is what our household is like: We have 3 adults in the house (my husband, my father, and myself) and 2 kids living at home (2 out of 4), they are 13 and 16 and extremely responsible. My kids are home schooled/cyber schooled, I am retired Navy, and my husband is a attorney. My father is living with us because of his age and health. We also have 8 rescued cats. All spayed and neutered, in great health, with all vaccinations, and all get annual checkups and vaccinations. :-) What we are looking for: A small-medium sized dog A playful dog (doesn't have to be overly playful, just a little tug of war or a little fetching would help) A little to no yipping/barking dog Moderate to easily trainable A good family dog A lap dog A cat friendly dog So what breed do you recommend? Honestly, this is just for a little extra knowledge, I am basing my search off personality not breed, but again, a little extra knowledge can't hurt. :-) I am looking into mutts, haha. I think mutts are the best, but I was just wondering some breed characteristics. Also we are looking for the smaller end of medium sized dogs. We did have 2 big dogs before (110 lbs. and 175 lbs.), sadly they died of old age (19-21 years old, we think, we weren't sure of their age, they were both strays we found, but we had them for 19-21 yrs.). Right now, a smaller dog would be best.

How would solve our deficit if you were in charge? How would you Solve the deficit if you were in charge? Based on the NYtimes calculator, this is what I came up with. But tell me what you would do differently and why? Where I cut spending Cut foreign aid in half save 17 billion by 2030 Eliminate earmarks save 14 billion Eliminate farm subsidies Save $14 billion Cut pay of civilian federal workers by 5 percent save 17 Billion Reduce the federal workforce by 10 percent Save 15 billion Cut 250,000 government contractors Save 17 Billion Reduce nuclear arsenal and space spending ( we dont need to go to space if we can feed ourselves) save 38 Billion Reduce military to pre-Iraq War size and further reduce troops in Asia and Europe save $49 Billion Reduce Navy and Air Force fleets Save $24 billion Cancel or delay some weapons programs Save $18 billion Reduce noncombat military compensation and overhead Save $51 billion Reduce the number of troops in Iraq and Afghanistan to 30,000 by 2013 Reducing troops by to 30,000 from 60,000 could save an additional $20 billion by 2030. SAVE $169 billion Enact medical malpractice reform Save $13 billion Increase the Medicare eligibility age to 70 This option would save nearly $50 billion more than increasing the age to 68 would. Save $104 billion Reduce the tax break for employer-provided health insurance Save $157 billion Reduce Social Security benefits for those with high incomes Save $54 billion Return the estate tax to Clinton-era levels Save $104 billion Return rates to Clinton-era levels Save $46 billion Allow expiration for income below $250,000 a year Save $252 billion Millionaire's tax on income above $1 million Save $95 billion Eliminate loopholes, but keep taxes slightly higher This option is the same as the previous one – except that tax rates would be cut less, raising more revenue to reduce the deficit. Save $315 billion Reduce mortgage deduction and others for high-income households . Save $54 billion National sales tax ( Denmark pays 50 percent and other countries pay upwards of that 5 percent aint gonna kill ya!) Nearly every other rich country has a tax on consumption, also known as a value-added tax or national sales tax. This option would impose a 5 percent consumption tax, exempting education, housing and charitable giving. Save $281 billion Bank Tax This option would tax banks based on the size of their holdings and the perceived riskiness of those holdings. Larger, riskier banks would pay more tax, both to discourage them from taking big risks and to help cover the costs of future financial crises. Save $103 billion you would have 56% savings from the tax increases and 44 percent from Spending cuts Our shortfall is 1,345 billion This plan leaves us with $1,769 Billion We would once again have a surplus. If you wanna see how I did it it, try it yourself here http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2010/… Sorry the definitions for everything would not fit into yahoo answers so you will need to look at the link if you need clarification on what each measure is. Some of these were tough choices, but try it yourself and see if you can come up with a better plan. I highly encourage it, people need to be more involved in government so government does not run the people. Source(s): My plan http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2010/11/13/weekinreview/deficits-graphic.html?choices=zmxq452x You can also use the link to make your own I realize it is only a guideline and does not include everything but it does make you consider would u keep the space program over medicare. It states the amount of the deficit so is there anyone that can actually use either that format or another formula to show how they would actually close the gap in more than two sentences. I want numbers not names please.

New army wife has questions about moving to her hubby's duty station? I was reading more about joining my hubby(we got married in december) and...it sounds like I would be an 'acquired dependent" and that the army wouldn't pay for my moving with him? because he's lived on base at Hawaii for almost a year now before we were married, and we were married just this past December. Would hawaii be considered an overseas tour? What kind of stamp from the hospital would I need on the medical paperwork?(someone told him I needed to have it stamped?) The C.M.S has banned doctor's signature stamps and everything is electronically signed. I have already sent him my physical, my birth certificate, a copy of my photo ID, my Social Security Card and I had my HMO fill out the evaluation paperwork he sent me. IF he IS trying to get "command sponsorship"(I have no idea what that is) How long does that take?? It seems kind of ridiculous to be paying for two separate households. So would it just be easier to pay out of pocket(for just a plane ticket since I'd be getting rid of most of my possesions) and get my Military ID out there? That is what a friend of mine and her navy husband did. they just had to wait to be able to afford to move her. Also, if all he needed to get married pay was my Birth certificate and the marriage license,(again, this is what someone told ME) does that mean he's collecting BAH while still living in single soldiers barracks? Can't you get in trouble for that? I'm so confused, and frustrated...and I'm not sure what all is required here. I've been sick for a while, and unable to work, so that means that Paying my landlord for rent pretty much is not happening. Also, I cant receive medical aid here in IA because we're married, but I can't get Tri-Care or anything like that from him until the paperwork's completed. He works all the time, and is exhausted when he gets home, and not up to talking very much about it, because he's stressed out, and he doesn't even really know what's needed. He's a good man, and I know he loves me, he's just as stressed about getting me out here as I am about getting to him. So any answers are appreciated. <3 T. How quickly would it go through? and what Stamp were they talking about? I thought he would recieve BAH as soon as I was added as a dependant? well then, the chain of command should be the one moving their behinds, because they aren't being very helpful

Dianne and Matt’s blended family is finally starting to actually feel and function as a real family....? “Diane and Matt’s Blended Family” Dianne and Matt’s blended family is finally starting to actually feel and function as a real family. They spent two long, grueling years trying to meet everybody’s needs and although things are far from perfect, they’re doing better. The new blended family has five members. Matt brought two teenage girls into the relationship. He refers to them as his “princesses package deal.” Matt’s first wife divorced him five years ago and no one has seen or heard from her since. She was an artist before the girls were born. Weaving was her passion and her creations were extraordinarily beautiful. After the birth of both girls, she no longer had the time to pursue her weaving. This led to a deep but untreated depression and ultimately led to their divorce. Matt knows he could probably find his ex and take her to court for back child support, but what would be the point? He makes a good iving and suspects that she moved to Mexico to do her weaving in the little fishing village they used to visit near Cabo in the early part of their marriage. One princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Amy. She’s 16 and her entire life rotates around school and friends. She has her driver’s license and works six hours a week at Old Navy, where she also spends most of her paycheck. Amy wants to study languages and is already fluent in Spanish and French. The glamour of studying abroad is motivating her to keep her GPA at 3.8 or above with hopes of one day working in Homeland Security as a “code breaker.” The more explosive princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Lori. She’s 14 going on 30. In typical early adolescent flare, her acid tongue lashes out against everyone in the family without regard for the consequences. She calls Amy “little Einstein” while her own grades are hovering in the C- and D range. Lori is begging for a tattoo. “All I want is a little ink on the small of my back,” she pleads. “No one will even ever see it.” Matt is firmly against this, even though Dianne has a small rose tattooed on her left ankle. Usually Lori stomps off to her room after one of these arguments. She’ll slam her door and crank up her music, creating tension and frustration throughout the household. Dianne also entered the marriage to Matt with a “package deal” of her own. Gracie was born three months after Dianne’s husband was killed in Afghanistan. He was career military, as were his brother and his father. Death was discussed openly, but even so, Dianne’s pregnancy made the shock of his death even more intense. Now Dianne and Gracie are enjoying their new life loving Matt. There’s just one little thing that’s worrying Dianne at this point. Four year old Gracie swears like a sailor! At first, Dianne couldn’t believe her ears. Gracie threw her Barbie down on the floor and yelled, “F***, you’re a bad doll.” Dianne didn’t know what to do, so she did nothing. Maybe she heard it wrong. How could innocent little Gracie know such a vulgar word? Dianne had almost convinced herself that this was just an awkward coincidence when Gracie got frustrated trying to button her jacket. “S***, this is hard,” said sweet,innocent Gracie. Dianne shuttered when she realized this was no awkward coincidence. When she asked Gracie where she learned those words, Gracie just shrugged. “Lori says them all the time,” Gracie answered, having no idea what she just said How can Dianne and Matt avoid shaming or otherwise negatively affecting Gracie when she uses vulgarity? What is the best way for Amy or Lori to respond to Gracie when she uses vulgarity? How should Dianne and Matt handle the situation if Gracie uses vulgarity in public?

Dianne and Matt’s blended family is finally starting to actually feel and function as a real family. ..? Dianne and Matt’s blended family is finally starting to actually feel and function as a real family. They spent two long, grueling years trying to meet everybody’s needs and although things are far from perfect, they’re doing better. The new blended family has five members. Matt brought two teenage girls into the relationship. He refers to them as his “princesses package deal.” Matt’s first wife divorced him five years ago and no one has seen or heard from her since. She was an artist before the girls were born. Weaving was her passion and her creations were extraordinarily beautiful. After the birth of both girls, she no longer had the time to pursue her weaving. This led to a deep but untreated depression and ultimately led to their divorce. Matt knows he could probably find his ex and take her to court for back child support, but what would be the point? He makes a good living and suspects that she moved to Mexico to do her weaving in the little fishing village they used to visit near Cabo in the early part of their marriage. One princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Amy. She’s 16 and her entire life rotates around school and friends. She has her driver’s license and works six hours a week at Old Navy, where she also spends most of her paycheck. Amy wants to study languages and is already fluent in Spanish and French. The glamour of studying abroad is motivating her to keep her GPA at 3.8 or above with hopes of one day working in Homeland Security as a “code breaker.” The more explosive princess in Matt’s “package deal” is Lori. She’s 14 going on 30. In typical early adolescent flare, her acid tongue lashes out against everyone in the family without regard for the consequences. She calls Amy “little Einstein” while her own grades are hovering in the C- and D range. Lori is begging for a tattoo. “All I want is a little ink on the small of my back,” she pleads. “No one will even ever see it.” Matt is firmly against this, even though Dianne has a small rose tattooed on her left ankle. Usually Lori stomps off to her room after one of these arguments. She’ll slam her door and crank up her music, creating tension and frustration throughout the household. Dianne also entered the marriage to Matt with a “package deal” of her own. Gracie was born three months after Dianne’s husband was killed in Afghanistan. He was career military, as were his brother and his father. Death was discussed openly, but even so, Dianne’s pregnancy made the shock of his death even more intense. Now Dianne and Gracie are enjoying their new life loving Matt. There’s just one little thing that’s worrying Dianne at this point. Four year old Gracie swears like a sailor! At first, Dianne couldn’t believe her ears. Gracie threw her Barbie down on the floor and yelled, “F***, you’re a bad doll.” Dianne didn’t know what to do, so she did nothing. Maybe she heard it wrong. How could innocent little Gracie know such a vulgar word? Dianne had almost convinced herself that this was just an awkward coincidence when Gracie got frustrated trying to button her jacket. “S***, this is hard,” said sweet,innocent Gracie. Dianne shuttered when she realized this was no awkward coincidence. When she asked Gracie where she learned those words, Gracie just shrugged. “Lori says them all the time,” Gracie answered, having no idea what she just said. Using Chapter 9 as your guideline, address the following issues or questions as they relate to four year old Gracie and her family:   How can Dianne and Matt avoid shaming or otherwise negatively affecting Gracie when she uses vulgarity? What is the best way for Amy or Lori to respond to Gracie when she uses vulgarity? How should Dianne and Matt handle the situation if Gracie uses vulgarity in public?

Can anybody interpret this dream? Okay. This dream has me shaking right now. This is the most disturbing dream that I have ever had.= tl;dr- got the **** beat out of me, almost killed in the process I dreamed that a girl that I once knew moved back into my neighborhood. For some reason, my dad threw out my cameras, so I had to fish it out of the dumpster. So that girl stopped and started to talk to me. After a while, we went to her house and had sex. When we were almost done, her parents walked in on us. Her dad asked me to get dressed and come downstairs. This man was no ordinary man. He was as strong as hell, so I did as he said out of fear of this man, and getting a little scared, and her dad asked me some questions downstairs. I can't remember exactly what he asked me, but something that I said put him into a catatonic rage. He beat the sh1t out me in front of her entire family for a good while, and I passed out. The next thing that I knew, I was in a truck riding with him somewhere out to an abandoned residential/ industrial household He told me that he was "taking me for a ride". I told him that I need to call my dad and tell him that I was going to be away so that he wouldn't worry about me. He handed me his phone, and said that if I try to ask for help, that he was going to kill me. So I texted my dad; telling him that I was at a friend's house. Now, in real life, this friend actually lives several miles away from me, but in this dream, he lived in my own neighborhood. He got out of the truck, and unlocked a house. There were bags that were stacked floor to ceiling high full of Arsenic, which appeared in the dream as just green toxic waste. So he then started to pull out the bags with his bare hands, and then said "hey. you're eighteen, come over here and help me" At this point, I was getting to relax a little more around him, even though I was still as scared as hell out him, so I started to pull out some bags in his house. After a few bags, he splashed some of that toxic Arsenic in my mouth, and then he apologized and then said that I need to get some water to wash it out. I looked around, and saw that the only water around was some muddy, poisoned water. So I noticed a tiny pipe coming out of the ground with water leading down to a very deep cavern. This was just some pothole in the road that was a very deep pothole, being hundreds of feet deep. So I lowered myself into the cavern, holding on by my fingers on a tiny ledge, when he pulled me out of the cave by my hair, and then said "you tricked my daughter into having sex with you" and then I said, "Yes, and I got the sh1t beat out of me, and I've paid for it". He then pulled me up to eye level, and then dropped me into the cave. I got a hold of the same ledge, and then crawled out into a hole in the wall of the cavern which led into a house, which was some kind of portal that led back into our same neighborhood. I realized that I had to get away from this criminally insane person, so I just legged it, fearing for my life the whole way. I tried to run to the same friend's house that I told my dad that I was spending the night with to call for help and barricade myself against that monster, and then I realized that he would chase me for ever. While he was chasing me, he started doing that Native American war call that they do with their mouth and their hands. I woke up before I was caught, or I reached the house. Additional notes: I started sleeping on the floor a while back, even though I have a bed. Since then, I have had some of the most vivid dreams that I have ever had in my entire life. I could go months without a dream when I was sleeping in my bed, but now, it seems like every night's dream is more intense than the last. I am also shipping out to the American Navy in 2 months, and my entire life has been revolving around that for 10 months. I have no idea what the significance of the camera is. I realize that this very well may be a past life experience, or maybe even a warning of future events. Sorry for the read, I had to get it all out there for my own purposes, I literally just woke up. What do you think?

Will the liberal media report this success in Iraq? The struggle to form a unity government in Iraq continues, but signs of hope are emerging. One of the sticking points continues to be Prime Minister Ibrahim Jaafari, who has so far refused to resign; however, on Sunday the Iraqi Shia Alliance reported it was close to a deal to replace him. For a little perspective, travel back to the States, to the U.S. Senate and watch the immigration debate in the Senate. We've been doing democracy for several centuries now, and we can't get 100 politicians to agree on one issue. Considering we're the pros, we could cut the Iraqis a little slack as they continue to get the feel of this democracy-project thing. There continues to be plenty of good news to be found in Iraq. The Iraqi army continues to take over responsibility for more battle space, al Qaeda continues to take a beating, and rebuilding of the country is progressing. Moreover, the Iraqi economy is improving, and has doubled in the last three years. News for Pessimistic Generals The media has given an enormous amount of publicity to former generals who are calling for Rumsfeld to resign, and all but ignore those who remain optimistic about our efforts in Iraq. Colonel William Grimsley commanded the brigade that first took control of Baghdad Airport. Three years on he remains optimistic about the country's future: Grimsley, commander of the 3rd Infantry Division's 1st Combat Brigade Team during the opening days of Operation Iraqi Freedom, said history — not current events — will tell the true story of Iraq's metamorphosis. And that story will show how Iraq ultimately emerged from almost 40 years of a regime that ignored the people's needs and undermined its potential, Grimsley, now a military assistant to Defense Secretary Donald H. Rumsfeld, said during an interview with American Forces Press Service and the Pentagon Channel. Major Kevin Carter just returned from Iraq, and shares this assessment: Charter believes not enough attention is being paid to the progress being made by Iraqis in taking control of their country. He said the people of Iraq are grateful Saddam Hussein has been overthrown. "I was told by an Iraqi that only two things could get rid of Saddam, the United States or Allah. I will never forget that," Charter said. "An Iraqi officer told me that if we just up and left the country would implode. They are so grateful for us being there and toppling Saddam. Even the Sunnis, who benefited under Saddam, thanked us." Before you think I'm just parroting the Pentagon line by quoting only officers, a Marine serving with an Iraqi unit had this to say: "Everybody hears about all the car bombs in Baghdad and how many people got shot. Those things are reality — I don't want to downplay them. But there's a lot of good things happening," he said. Despite being the main targets of terrorists and ex-Baathists, Iraqi soldiers remain well motivated: According to the commanding officer of the local Iraqi-army unit here, the soldiers' motivation to fight insurgents is steady despite the loss of two of their own comrades. During a memorial service for a fallen soldier, the Iraqi commander of 2nd Battalion, 2nd Brigade, 7th Iraqi Army Division, assured his soldiers they were performing well and encouraged them to continue to listen and learn from the Marines. "I want the soldiers to continue to do the job they are doing," said the commanding officer, who wishes to remain anonymous. "We need the Marines' support and they are very professional when it comes to training my soldiers." A tip led U.S. troops to a house where forged documents were made: The two suspected forgers were found at a house where Soldiers seized $2,050 in U.S. currency, more than 500,000 Iraqi Dinars, 125 various forms of identification, fake stamps for the IDs and an AK-47. Another tip led U.S. troops to a weapons cache at a terrorist training facility: Found at the site were 19 155 mm artillery rounds and 21 mortar rounds of various calibers. The site may have been a training site of insurgents. The cache was transported to a secured location for controlled detonation. 320 Iraqis from Anbar Province arrived in Jordan to received training as police officers. The Iraqi army continues to take over more battle space: The 3rd Battalion, 1st Brigade, 4th Iraqi Army Division is assuming control of an area of responsibility that encompasses Balad, Al Duluyah and Yethrib, as well as the smaller villages surrounding these cities. In addition to taking over battle space, Iraqis continue to take the lead in more security operations. Operation Cobra Strike was lead by soldiers of the 8th Iraqi Army Division. The operation was planned, and conducted by Iraqis, with U.S. soldiers in support. Iraqi soldiers discovered four weapons caches during an operation in southern Baghdad: In total, the four weapons caches consisted of seven RPG rounds, three machine guns, 28 70 mm mortar rounds, 38 60mm mortar rounds, landmines, a large bag of homemade explosives, a sniper rifle, grenades, 13 pre-made roadside-bombs, ten rockets, 403 linked rounds of small arms ammunition, three bags of linked ammunition and 5,000 rounds of sniper-rifle rounds. 139 Iraqi soldiers recently graduated from commando school, and are ready to fight: "The Iraqi people are tired of the terrorists, extremists and instability and this unit fights that ... I am very proud that I am part of this special unit that will help stabilize this country," he said. "The terrorists have had their time. This is our time now." 39 of 45 planned border forts along the Iran-Iraq border are complete. The border posts are manned by Iraqis. U.S. troops discovered several significant weapons caches on an island in the Euphrates River: On April 5, Soldiers from 1st Battalion, 67th Armor Regiment, 2nd Brigade Combat Team, 4th Infantry Division, discovered 34 fused 82 mm rounds, five fused 120 mm rounds, 600 82 mm mortar rounds, 23 fused rocket-propelled grenades, five hand grenades, 28 55-gallon drums of TNT, nine 55-gallon sacks of nitrate, two bundles of detonation chord, a penetrator and 5,000 AK-47 rounds. The next day, Soldiers gathered 1,500 meters of command wire, a mortar sight, a receiver, 54 82mm rounds and a 107mm rocket. On April 7, MND-B Soldiers discovered the following items on the island: 1,450 18 mm anti-aircraft rounds, 27 125 mm aerial bombs, 30 anti-tank grenades, seven 60 mm mortars, five 82 mm mortars, 25 RPG rounds, 96 sticks of dynamite, 600 mortar primers, 156 hand grenades, three cylindrical containers, a RPG launcher, a rocket (caliber unknown), 37 boosters and a small mortar. In Mosul, U.S. soldiers discovered a significant amount of materials used to make IEDs. In Tikrit, a terrorist planting an IED was captured. In Yusifiyah, several terrorist were killed or captured after their safe house was attacked: During the assault, five terrorists, three of them wearing suicide vests, were killed; five others, one of whom was wounded, were detained. Two of the suicide bombers were killed before either could detonate his vest, and the third detonated his body bomb killing only himself and injuring no one else. I mentioned Operation Cowpens last week. The operation ended Friday, and the tally of captured munitions is impressive US forces killed five suspected insurgents and detained five others in a raid on a house southwest of Baghdad early Sunday in a hunt for an alleged Al Qaeda operative, the US military reported, according to AFP. In another raid, a senior al Qaeda operative was killed. Abu Umar was the terror groups "ambassador," and was charged with forming relationships with other groups in Iraq. Umar was an associate of Osama bin Laden. More than 115 top al Qaeda operatives have been killed or captured in Iraq over the last few months. Al Qaeda in Iraq continues to use unwilling people to carry out attacks. One attacker was identified by the fingerprints found on his hand, which was hand cuffed to the steering wheel of a car used as a bomb. It was the only part of him found. U.S. military vehicles in Iraq will be getting a new anti-RPG system called Trophy from the Israelis [This item has been corrected since posting. — Ed.]: The Trophy, unveiled by the IDF a year ago, combines two main systems: a radar built by Israel Aircraft Industries Ltd., detects threats; and a Rafael-designed system destroys incoming threats in flight. Rafael claims that the Trophy can protect armored fighting vehicles against all types of anti-tank rockets and missiles. The two conceptual innovations incorporated into the Trophy are 360-degree protection of the tank or APC, which eliminates the need for adding armor plating, which can double a tank’s weight, restricting its mobility and maneuverability; and to provide protection from new threats from the side and top in low-intensity combat, compared with frontal threats of the past. The State Department issued a report on Iraq's economy. Iraq's economy as nearly doubled in the last three years. GDP rose by 2.6% last year, and is expected to rise by more than ten percent in 2006. A carpentry workshop funded by USAID is helping Iraqis earn a living: The workshop focuses on fostering leadership, independence and financial stability among 18- to 24-year-olds. Profits from sale of furniture and doors made in the carpentry shop are reinvested in the youth center to purchase sports equipment, Internet access and secondary school supplies. Three new power substations are now online in Najaf. At a cost of $4.8 million per substation, each should provide 25,000 households with electricity. A ceremony in Baghdad marked the opening of a renovated youth center: The Youth Center offers programs and training in weightlifting, boxing, wrestling, judo and soccer. During the tour, the guests viewed young Iraqi boxers sparring; wrestlers practicing takedowns; soccer players kicking goals; and weightlifters pumping iron. The project was financed with funds from the 10th Mountain Division. Everyday Americans are also helping out in Iraq. Frank Casa of Fairport, New York raised $25,000 to send wheel chairs to disabled residents of Hilla: Casa has raised more than $25,000 to send desperately needed wheelchairs to Hilla, a city south of Baghdad, ravaged by the blasts of suicide attacks and car bombs. Later this year, he'll travel to Iraq to help distribute the wheelchairs. "There are many, many civilians that are caught in desperate straits, that were caught up in this war, and they're strictly victims," Casa said. "Not to have mobility is like throwing fuel on the fire." The latest weekly reconstruction update is available here. Highlights include: * A water system is under construction in Fallujah. When completed it will provide 200,000 residents with clean water. * A firing range is under construction at the police academy in Hillah. * Renovations are complete on the police station in Kadhimiya. * The rehabilitation of a sewer pump station is complete in Mansour. * In Baghdad, construction is complete on three solid waste transfer stations. * A project to provide 10,000 residents in Basrah is complete. * Construction of two power stations in Erbil Province is complete. * Reconstruction is complete on two fire stations in Karbala. * 13 of 15 school projects are complete in Karbala. * Construction of new classrooms is now complete in Mosul. U.S. and Iraqi troops conducted a dental clinic in Amu Shabi: A smile can light up one's face... and today, more than 200 Iraqis had a reason to smile. Iraqi-army troops, along with U.S. Special Forces medics, Civil Affairs and 1st Brigade Combat Team, 101st Airborne Division Soldiers, traveled to a school in Amu Shabi, Iraq, to provide a Dental Assessment and Care Clinic for local citizens. A Scottish company has plans to build the first water park in Iraq. This story is pertinent because of the what the company's sales managers said: International sales manager Jim Stuart said yesterday: "I am delighted to be involved in this project and it shows that rebuilding in Iraq really is happening." Sadly, the newly elected Miss Iraq won't be attending the opening. Norway's DNO will become the first Western company since the invasion to produce oil in Iraq next year. The company has discovered five oil reservoirs in northern Iraq. Iraqi Air is purchasing two new planes from Airbus. Iraq is spending $25 million to purchase two new oil tankers. OUR HEROES Petty Officer 2nd Class Juan M. Rubio will be awarded the Silver Star later this month for actions in Iraq: On Jan. 1, 2005, Rubio's platoon was ambushed on the Euphrates River. The Marines left their boats and pursued the attackers, only to have an explosive set off nearby. Rubio and three Marines were wounded. Despite having shrapnel wounds in his legs and arms, Rubio belly-crawled to the injured Marines and treated their injuries. He then dragged each of them across open terrain, under fire, to safety behind a wall. He showed the uninjured Marines how to care for the wounded troops and then began directing covering fire while he helped take the wounded back to the boats. "Your actions saved lives and you have set an example for future corpsmen and Marines to emulate," wrote Maj. Gen. R.F. Natonski, who wrote a letter endorsing the medal. "Your service is coveted by each and every Marine in the 1st Marine Division." One Marine died that day, Lance Cpl. Brian Parrello. Rubio believes Parrello saved his life. "He took a big chunk of artillery," Rubio said. "He absorbed 90 percent of the explosion for me. I owe my life to him." Petty Officer 2nd Class Justin Jewett was awarded the Bronze Star for action in Iraq: Jewett ran through a hail of gunfire and dragged the injured teammate 20 feet to the protection of a large vehicle, the citation says. He then administered first aid. Under continuous attack, he supervised the evacuation of his wounded teammate. The Navy said Jewett's "courageous actions" saved his teammate's life. Lance Corporal Carlos Gomez-Perez was awarded the Silver Star this week for his actions in Fallujah: In the late morning, the platoon came under fire from machine guns and rocket-propelled grenades coming from three directions, according to a citation signed by Secretary of the Navy Donald Winter. Gomez-Perez first made sure that several injured comrades received medical attention, then moved another downed Marine out of the line of fire, suffering wounds to his shoulder and face in the process. "Despite his injuries, he again exposed himself to enemy fire and continued to attack the enemy with grenades and by firing his rifle with his uninjured arm," the citation states. "By his bold leadership, wise judgment and complete dedication to duty, Lance Corporal Gomez-Perez reflected great credit upon himself and upheld the highest traditions of the Marine Corps and the United States Naval Service."

Vital report Is Johnny Sutton is serious trouble Ethics Complaint Filed Against Johnny Sutton? The National Association of Former Border Patrol Officers (NAFBPO) extracts and condenses the material that follows from Mexican and Central and South American on-line media sources on a daily basis. You are free to disseminate this information, but we request that you credit NAFBPO as being the provider. El Diario de Coahuila (Saltillo, Coah.) 5/12/08 Five men were shot to death in Palomas, Chihuahua, yesterday just two blocks away from the international border crossing (note: next to Columbus, New Mexico, the town that Pancho Villa invaded). 175 assault rifle shell casings were found at the scene. Palomas, a town of 7,000 pop., has had 30 homicides linked to organized crime this year and 20 persons have been kidnapped. Another five men were executed with high caliber firearms in different events in Ciudad Juarez, Chihuahua. Six homicides were reported in Sinaloa and the body of a decapitated unknown person was also located. Further, three men were executed in Tlajomulco de Zuniga, Jalisco. (Note: the blood list continues with reports of some half dozen additional violent deaths in a number of localities.) The week starts with 23 executions. ---------------- a.b.c. (Mexico City) 5/12/08 (The following is a portion of an op/column by Francisco Cardenas Ruiz regularly titled "Political Pulse"): "If President Calderon doesn't do something, and quickly, to stop the daily bloodbath which organized crime and narcotraffic are giving to the nation and it is decided, once and for all, to cut the umbilical cord which both have with municipal, state and federal authorities, his government will continue losing not only the battles but the war itself which he declared against them when he took office. Besides, he could be in imminent risk that the families of the members of the army, navy and all police agencies which participate in the anti-narco war will demand from him to put a stop to so much violence before their members are also murdered. After the executions of top level officials of the Federal Public Security Departments and those of some states which occurred last week - the day before yesterday the director of the Ciudad Juarez Municipal Police, Juan Antonio Roman Garcia, was riddled with 50 shots - and the death in a shootout in Culiacan of Edgar Guzman Lopez, one of the sons of Joaquin "El Chapo" Guzman Loera, the worse thing is that two signs appeared at that same place yesterday with direct threats against the governor of Sinaloa, Jesus Aguilar Padilla, (saying) that they will make attempts against his life. This confirms once again what we have been warning about in this column: that sooner or later organized crime and narcotraffic are going to raise their gun sights and their targets will not only be city police officers or federal or state agents, but their supervisors and the chiefs of the latter, as has already begun to happen. As long as there continue to be officials at any federal, state or city level who have links and complicity with the drug cartels and they (those officials) continue to furnish protection and facilities to crime bosses and hired killers so that the latter can obtain information about the operations and daily activities of the persons carrying out those operations (then) those persons will keep on being executed in Mexico City or in any city in the interior of the Republic." ------------------- Cuarto Poder (Tuxtla, Chiapas) 5/12/08 Felipe Arizmendi, the bishop of San Cristobal de las Casas, Chiapas, commented on the recent decriminalization of illegal immigration in Mexico and said that unfortunately it has not been made widely known because of other ongoing national issues; he added "we are giving an example to the United States because there it is all the reverse, any person who might be undocumented is considered a wrongdoer" . He underlined that "an undocumented person is not a delinquent but a human being who deserves attention and respect. Let us hope that the United States will follow the good example we want to give with this important measure and that we emphasize it in the most adequate way." ------------------- Frontera (Tijuana, Baja Calif.) 5/12/08 73 vehicles a day were stolen in Tijuana during the first three months of the year. A total of 6,724 vehicles were stolen from January to March, a 14% increase over 2007. Mexicali came in second with 1,550, then Ensenada with 549. The state of Baja Calif. total for the first three months reached 9,348 vehicles. ------------------- El Sur (Acapulco, Guerrero) 5/12/08 Edward Francis Pellew, a tourist from London, U.K., was driving a rental car in Acapulco last Saturday morning when he was stopped by local police officers who accused him of speeding, almost hitting a woman and child and running two stop signs on Costanera Ave. He replied that he had not been speeding since the particular scenic road has a number of dangerous curves, that he had not seen any woman and child and that he had been coming from Puerto Marques, not on the Costanera. So an officer told him that his chief had ordered him to take him in to their facility in handcuffs. Once inside the patrol unit - he could not see its number because they blocked his view - they asked him for 400 pesos to set him free; he replied he had no cash, only credit cards, so they took him to an ATM where they no longer wanted 400 pesos but 3,000. They then let him go. The tourist then presented a formal complaint to authorities and described the officers in the presence of reporters. At that moment the director general of the Acapulco Hotel and Tourism Association phoned and asked that Pellew's complaint report not be published in the media and that a way would be sought to resolve the problem. --------------- El Universal (Mexico City) 5/12/08 Rivalry between drug cartels for control of Sinaloa has caused 270 violent deaths there so far this year, 41 more than in the same period last year. In May alone the tally to date is 52; it includes 24 members of law enforcement agencies. Local businessmen said that almost daily one or several bodies turn up, wrapped in bedding, with hands and feet tied, or who fell prey to volleys of gunfire from some automatic rifle. The violence in Sinaloa dates back more than four decades and is due to the fact that this is an area that produces marihuana and poppy and is also a strategic point for the transit of drugs from the southeast of the country besides being the birthplace of the cartels' main chiefs. ---------------- La Cronica de Hoy (Mexico City) 5/12/08 A truck headed for Ciudad Juarez carrying household furniture was stopped in Guanajuato. Inside the double false bottom: 19 Guatemalans, 9 Salvadorans, 3 Ecuadoreans, & 1 Honduran, all undocumented. ----------------- Norte (Ciudad Juarez, Chihuahua) 5/12/08 Eight more homicides in this area yesterday (Sunday) brought the year's total above 300 and to 43 to date in May, a month in which the daily average is nearly four. ----------------- Prensa Libre (Guatemala City, Guatemala) 5/12/08 The wave of violence in Guatemala has resulted in 876 deaths so far this year, mostly by the use of firearms. One of the most recent victims was that of one of this newspaper's reporters who had been working on "administrative corruption" in southwestern Guatemala. Forty-three of the victims have been local and interurban bus drivers, almost as many as the 51 murdered in all of 2007. ----------------- Note : Prominent, front section items in both the "o.e.m." newspapers (Mexico's nationwide chain of some 40 papers) and on "El Heraldo" (Tegucigalpa, Honduras) today gave full coverage to The Washington Post feature story detailing that more illegal aliens in custody in the U.S. have died in the last few years while awaiting deportation than have terrorists died in Guantanamo. Home Page